10 Ways to Know You’re Aligned With Your Purpose(s) 😉❤

For most of us talking about our life’s purpose feels so daunting. How can I, a simple small town girl have some incredible “life purpose”?! It sounds so intense, and responsible. What if I fail? I don’t want to have that kind of weight on my shoulders!

But what if we change our perspective a little… What if we (as individuals) don’t have this one distinct, life changing purpose in our lives? Instead our lives are built upon situations, choices, relationships that within each and every one of them has a life purpose. What if the world is littered with gazillions of smaller purposes? Each one of them as meaningful as the last. If you think about it every relationship we have serves a purpose, every job, maybe even every conversation. The relationships for example, even the worst ones have taught us something, and that was their purpose!

Even if we choose something that is not directly aligned with the universe, there is still a purpose there. There is a purpose in everything. So relax. There is no pressure here. You may just be re-routed a few times, and you may feel off balance when you aren’t aligned.

The only thing that we’re asked to do is recognize and challenge ourselves to understand these purposes, and take the lessons that we need from each of them, so that we don’t need to keep repeating the same patterns over and over. When we do this we start to live a life that is aligned with the universe. We start to live authentically. This is where we find success, happiness, joy and love. Ultimately, this is the highest life purpose for each of us.

So how can we know that we are following our purpose? That we are working towards aligning our lives? Simple, our intuition. Intuition ALWAYS tells us what is best, not only for us, but for humanity as a whole. Here are 10 signs that will confirm you are aligned with your intuition;

  1. You follow things that feel light and bright
  2. You get gut feelings, or feelings in your chest that are an inner knowing, and that never need an explanation
  3. Your chest and shoulders feel open and airy (rather than tight and constricted)
  4. Situations in your life continue to happen, until you finally make another choice
  5. Little signs keep showing you big things
  6. You feel inspired, excited about life
  7. The clock keeps showing you the same numbers; 11:11, 4:44, 5:55 etc…
  8. You daydream things (or have dreams at night) that are actually coming true
  9. You think about someone and then they call or text a minute later (Careful with this one, it could also be a test which inspires your lesson and your purpose)
  10. The word “intuition” brings a lightness to your soul ❤✌
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WTF is a Third Eye Chakra?!

Sixth blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired. Almost Done! Kind reminder time; it takes more than just reading these posts to balance your chakras. The real work is up to you, especially at this phase in the game. Do your research! The intention for this series is to give you a quick snapshot of each chakra so that you can start to pay more attention to your body and know what each chakra works with. Secondly, if you don’t know what I mean when I say “chakra” there is a “WTF is a Chakra” post at the beginning of this series. Read it first.

The Third Eye Chakra (brow chakra or Ajna) is located on the forehead directly in the centre of your eyebrows (or unibrow for some – no judgment). This chakra packs the punch. Not only is it my favourite colour – like a deep purple/blue but it’s the main point of entry for the universal life force energy. Meaning energy enters our body through our Third Eye and this chakra distributes the energy throughout our body. The Third Eye Chakra is known as the seat of intuition, wisdom and spiritual insight. It provides us with an entirely new way of seeing.

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So… Third Eye, in between your other eyes – sees beyond what the other two see – intuition – and I think you’ll just need to remember that its deep purple because I’m stumped for some clever way to remember that. Comment below if you’re more creative than me 😉

Our Third Eye Chakra brings us a whole new level of awareness when it’s balanced. Our thinking and our vision becomes more clear, and inevitably that allows us to focus on the bigger picture with ease. When it’s unbalanced it can leave us feeling unmotivated, depressed, anxiety ridden and fearful of the unknown. We will remain stuck in problem thinking and will feel a gigantic block in our intuition and our psychic abilities. Someone who hasn’t awoken their Third Eye Chakra will feel stuck in the daily grind of every day life (yuck). They might lack inspiration and clarity and be unable to establish any sort of vision for themselves or their lives. Monotonous everything.

Physically an imbalance can effect the brain, eyes, and pituitary glands. This can lead to migraines, seizures, sinusitis, poor vision, sciatica and problems regulating or getting to sleep.

Someone with a blocked Third Eye will likely reject all things spiritual. Or they may believe in God, but shut down everything else that may require a deeper connection and some imagination. The Third Eye Chakra allows us to see in to the spiritual realm. It is linked to psychic abilities like Clairvoyance and Clairaudience. When it’s in balance we are connected, we are wise, intuitive, and magical.

To awaken our Third Eye Chakra it is incredibly important to meditate as often as possible. There are hundreds of meditations on YouTube you can try. I started with guided visualizations and then moved to just music where I can do my own visualizations. I find these to be very powerful in developing your third eye. Pay attention to the ways in which it feels and looks different when you are using your third eye, as opposed to eye #1 and #2. For me, even the thoughts I have change. Don’t be discouraged when the things you witness with your third eye are hard to explain or describe to someone else. Use your intuition!! Really reign in on what your inner voice and your gut are telling you, and don’t question it or doubt yourself.

Another way to build your psychic powers and awaken your third eye is through divination tools. Use Oracle Cards or a Pendulum. Talk to Spirit, ask for help. Participate in a moon ritual – the Full Moon is a fantastic time to open this chakra.

Lapis Lazuli, Lavender Quartz, Purple Fluorite and Lepidolite are crystals that I like to use with the Third Eye Chakra. You can hold them (or even charge them) with these affirmations;

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WTF is a Throat Chakra?!

Fifth blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired.

The Throat Chakra (or Vishuddha) is located right where you might guess. In the hollow of the throat (points for being a genius 🤓). In honour of keeping it simple, the Throat Chakra deals with our ability to communicate. It’s our hub of expression; self expression, expression of emotions, creative expression and non verbal expression. The colour associated with this chakra is Blue. I just pulled the phone-a-friend card and asked how to make it easy to remember that the Throat Chakra is blue – water she said! You gotta drink water, lube your throat to communicate – totally makes sense.
So here it is; Throat = communication = water = blue.

A balanced Throat Chakra helps you to know what you want in life, and express yourself confidently and responsibly. You’re able to reflect and explore with courage and honesty, and share your authentic self with the rest of the world. You won’t be afraid to ask for what you want because you’ll do it with integrity and respect.

When your Throat Chakra is off balance you will have trouble expressing yourself. This may look like a creative block, difficulty speaking your truth, social anxiety or excessive fear of speaking in front of a crowd. If there’s a block in this chakra you could be wondering why you just can’t stop lying. You can become very critical of others, verbally aggressive and gossipy. People with an imbalance in this chakra tend to be loud and are often yelling. They have a tendency of interrupting people and are intolerant of others’ opinions.

Physically the Throat Chakra has an impact on your neck, shoulders, ears, mouth, jaw, and thyroid. This could potentially look like chronic sore throats or bronchitis, mouth ulcers or cold sores, thyroid problems, neck pain and headaches.

The Throat Chakra serves as a mediator between our emotions (heart) and our mind (thoughts). When there is an imbalance we can become distrustful of our inner voice, and disconnected spiritually. This builds upon the disconnect you already feel because an unbalanced Throat Chakra already prevents you from realizing your truth, and purpose. It is very important to keep this chakra balanced if you want to move forward spiritually.

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Sodalite and Aquamarine are my favourite crystals associated with the Throat Chakra. I actually have a Sodalite wand that I use to direct the energy in or away from my throat. When we are trying to grow spiritually it is incredibly important that we learn to speak our truth and feel safe doing so.

A couple of ways I have used to balance this chakra are;

  1. Journaling – be as raw and vulnerable as you can be. If you can’t be honest in your own journal then you’ve got a problem.
  2. Find someone you trust and tell them your deepest secret. The one that always sits at the peak of your mind and plays like a movie on repeat. Get it out.
  3. Wear blue, and decorate a room with some blue accents. Both my bathroom and my bedroom have shades of blue. Its not a sad colour, it’s calming and supportive especially a dark blue.
  4. Reassure your friends and family when they are speaking. Let them know that what they are saying is important, and honest. Eventually you will start saying it to yourself.

Grab that trusty mirror again and repeat the affirmations below…

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WTF is a Heart Chakra?!

Fourth blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired.

The Heart Chakra (Anahata) is located in the centre of your chest (shouldn’t be hard to figure out why 🤔). The Heart Chakra encompasses our capacity to accept and feel unconditional love, compassion and joy. The colour associated is Green. This chakra falls right in the middle of our 7 main chakras and represents the space where the physical and spiritual worlds meet. It reminds us that beneath all of our basic, human problems there is a purity within us. Spiritual love so deep that it takes on the colour of nature to show us how connected we are.
Heart = love = green like nature (deep spiritual love).

When our Heart Chakra is off balance we will feel unworthy of love. We won’t be able to accept love fully, and we will lack the ability to trust others, and ourselves. You know those walls that we build once we get hurt? We think we’re protecting ourselves by adopting these defense mechanisms that push people away and keep our hearts safe – those walls are deeply connected to this chakra. When they’re up, you are literally closing this chakra and the wheel isn’t moving any energy. This makes us closed off, defensive, antisocial, heartless little meanies. We hold grudges easily, are unkind, irritable, bossy and overly critical with others.

When in balance this chakra is respectful and encouraging. It allows people (including ourselves) to be who they really are, and loves them for it. We are quick to forgive because we empathize and are ruled by understanding and compassion.

Physically our heart (duh), our chest, arms, hands and ribs can be impacted by an imbalance in the Heart Chakra. This can show in heart problems, difficulty breathing, hypertension, poor circulation etc…

You know when you are sitting across from someone and they smile at you, and you feel this warmth in your chest and little chills down your arms? That’s your Heart Chakra saying there’s a pretty solid chance you love them.
As the middle chakra, and the centre of love, awareness, compassion and empathy, spirituality runs strongly throughout this one. When our Heart Chakra is open we have faith that we are all connected. We know that we are born from and to be divine love. We have the ability to grieve and reach peace through spiritual understanding.

Whenever you feel that this chakra needs some balance, shift your attitude. Chances are you’re feeling cynical, judgmental, hurt, or upset and that’s okay. Sometimes it’s important to feel those things and allow them to process through, and once you’re ready to balance out again think Gratitude. Remind yourself of all the beautiful people, places and things that you have in your life and express your thanks for them.

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Meditation is a very strong remedy for an imbalance in this chakra as it connects your physical body and mind to the spiritual worlds. And music, but not the angry, head banging shit. Unless that’s how you want to feel, that’s totally up to you.

I’m only going to recommend one crystal here because I swear by it when it comes to the Heart Chakra. Rose Quartz. Rose Quartz everything! Necklace, bracelet, tumble stone in your bra, scentsy cubes, display crystals. It doesn’t matter, just Rose Quartz it up however you can. It helps dissolve emotional wounds, and makes you feel safe to lower those walls again. It prevents and destroys fears and resentments. It helps you to attract love, romance and intimacy, and even helps you keep it 😉 . It opens up your Heart Chakra to allow you to love openly and freely. What else is there that really matters in this world?!

So… Are you choosing Love or Fear today? ✌️❤️

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WTF is a Solar Plexus Chakra?!

Third blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired. We’re just working our way up here! Kind reminder time; it takes more than just reading these posts to balance your chakras. The real work is in your hands. Do your research. The intention for this series is to give you a quick snapshot of each chakra so that you can start to pay more attention to your body and know what each chakra works with. Secondly, if you don’t know what I mean when I say “chakra” there is a “WTF is a Chakra” post at the beginning of this series. Read it.

The Solar Plexus Chakra (or Manipura) is located just above our belly button at the bottom of our rib cage. This is our “don’t be a doormat” chakra. It’s about knowing your worth. It’s our centre for personal willpower and self-esteem. The Solar Plexus Chakra controls the energy that can muster up the courage not only deal with, but master the emotions that arise in the Sacral Chakra, overcome any fear associated with them and set forth taking confident action. The colour associated with our SP is yellow.

Solar = Sun = Yellow = Warm, Vibrant, Confident 👌

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When our Solar Plexus is off balance we feel ignored, under valued, unappreciated, and rejected. It’s no wonder this was the first chakra I was drawn to on my journey. I was looking for value external to me. I was allowing other people/situations to decide how I felt, what I did, what made me happy. I was inactive in my own life, passive and indecisive. When this chakra is out of whack we might see ourselves as victims. We will put up with poor treatment and have low standards because we may think this is what we are deserving of. News Flash = that’s a lie; you deserve every ounce of beauty this world has to offer!!!

Physically an imbalance in the SP will impact our liver, gallbladder (mine was removed for a reason lol) and our digestive system. We might suffer from gas, nausea, diabetes, ulcers etc… A balanced SP will help you be proactive in terms of assessment and treatment of illness because it allows you to meet challenges with confidence, rather than being fearful and inactive.

The enemy of the SP is the ego (😰ugh). And unfortunately as we increase our awareness, and we start to grow spiritually or otherwise, our ego fights back. Hard. It makes us question everything. We might feel really good and confident one moment, and then one person looks at us the wrong way, we feel judged, our self esteem disappears and our ego starts to party, filling us with nasty messages about how we aren’t worthy, we aren’t enough…

To enable the Solar Plexus Chakra to function optimally, we need to be able to decipher ego from intuition. We need to believe in ourselves and trust the universe. We need to do some hard work with our self esteem and self worth. Do you know the difference?

I’m going to challenge you today, it’s like truth and dare but you have to do both.

Truth: What is an exciting and challenging goal you want to achieve? Write it down. Write down some small steps you can take to reach it. Monitor your progress and celebrate when you have achieved something. Pat yourself on the back, and buy yourself some flowers.

Dare: Smile! Get out in the sun, stretch your body, do a little dance. Step out of your comfort zone, do something nice for someone and don’t tell anyone you did it.

And one last thing… Put on an outfit that makes you feel beautiful (because you are!!). It doesn’t even matter if it’s your flannel onesie. I won’t judge! Stand in front of the mirror holding one (or all) of these crystals; yellow jasper, citrine, amber or tiger’s eye, and repeat these affirmations;

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WTF is a Sacral Chakra?!

Second blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired.

The Sacral Chakra (or Svadhistana) is my fave, and certainly the one I’ve done the most work with. It is located in your ponch (don’t be embarrassed, we all have one) in between your belly button and your privates. This chakra represents the hub of our emotions, and our sexual energy centre. It’s our emotional and creative responses to the core issues from the Root Chakra. The colour associated with this chakra is orange.

Hmmmm… An easy way to remember this one? Sacral… sacred (sex) and orange is spicy and fiery like our emotions, and like some sex 😋

When our Sacral Chakra is out of balance we will struggle with intimate relationships, (with others and with ourselves) and I don’t just mean sexually, though that is definitely a part of it. We will be codependent, needy and whiny little twits. We will seek pleasure in unhealthy ways. We will struggle with addiction, jealousy and rage. We will either hide our feelings completely or we will use them to manipulate and control other people.

Physically our reproductive organs, kidney, bladder and lower back will be impacted. We might experience infertility, testicular diseases, cramping (ugh) etc… I was diagnosed with Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) and I can guarantee this was my Sacral Chakra screaming at me to pay attention because it was shutting down.

This one was a big one for me spiritually. The Sacral Chakra is connected to the Divine Feminine in all of us. It is associated with the moon, and goddess energies. Only once I was able to fully embrace this chakra was I able to discover my authentic self, love myself freely and unapologetically, and speak my truth without shame and judgment.

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You know what? This one was a big one for me just in general. If you’ve read any of my previous blogs, or my “about me” section, you know I’ve suffered from severe burnout. Most of us have, in one way or another. For those of us who are empaths, I cannot even stress how important it is to pay attention to this chakra.

If you have experienced any imbalance in relationships. If you’ve ever felt guilty for shining too bright. If you’ve ever felt insecure about sharing how you feel. If you’ve ever been a girl – been told not to eat too much, spend too much, talk too much, cry too much, or have too much sex. If you’ve ever been ashamed about enjoying sex with a partner, or multiple partners… Focus on this chakra!

Pull some orange into your wardrobe. Buy an orange blanket and cuddle up to it. Meditate with Citrine, Carnelian or Moonstone. Practice mindfulness – jackpot!! Be mindful of your thoughts and intentions and watch how these impact your emotions. Be aware of these emotions and how they feel in your body. If it feels good, then enjoy it! Find a solid balance between discipline and passion. It is vital that we find joy in this life!!

Explore yourself inside and out, and fall in love with everything you find ❤️✌️

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WTF is a Chakra?!

Chakras. Energy. Universal Life Force. WTF?

Here’s your simple guide to chakras and how understanding these golden nuggets can help you heal your life. Trust me, it will change everything.

Before we even touch on the chakras we need to get a basic understanding of Energy. Remember Grade 10 Science? Nah, me either. Well basically it tells us that the entire universe is energy. The chair you’re sitting on, the tree outside your window, the clip in your hair, the clouds, that annoying dog that keeps barking… And You.

Energy = life force = universal matter = prana (that’s yoga speak). Gazillions of neurons bouncing off each other. It’s teeny weeny and it’s everywhere. There is absolutely no escaping it.

Humans are made up of this universal life force and chakras are the energy centres (some say spiritual power centres) inside of us. Basically they regulate our energy. Picture little wheels (which is actually the Sanskrit translation of “chakra”) in different areas of your body. They spin and spin and distribute the energy. There are 100+ chakras in our bodies, but we are simple humans so we focus mainly on 7. We start at the base of our spine and work the way up to the top of our heads.

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So the wheels turn in each of these 7 areas and distribute the energy throughout our bodies. Sometimes these wheels (the chakras) get blocked, spin too quickly or too slowly, or shut down completely. These have spiritual, emotional and physical impacts on us. When our chakras are balanced and the energy is free to move throughout our bodies we live a healthy and harmonious life. Rainbows and butterflies basically.

Don’t get too excited, no one can live on cloud 9 for long. Every day, several times a day, 1 or 7 of our chakras will become off balance. We carry too much crap for it to be any other way. The important thing is that we pay attention.

How Can Understanding Chakras Help Us Heal?

Anytime that we have a better understanding of what’s going on inside our bodies we have a greater chance of healing. Take a moment right now and focus your attention to your body. Close your eyes and feel the energy coursing through you. In which areas does the energy feel heavier? Blocked? Flowing freely? If the energy feels tight between your rib cage then you likely have some work to do with your Solar Plexus Chakra. Think about what’s been going on in your life. Is there something threatening your sense of belonging? Your personal identity? Have you been feeling less confident lately? Are you having issues digesting your meals?

Once you can understand chakras in general and then each chakra separately you can figure out exactly what needs to be addressed to bring yourself back to alignment and ultimately work towards healing. Working with your chakras can also be a preventative measure to avoid illness.

If you are curious, and just too darn lazy to try to figure it out yourself, have a practitioner do a Chakra Assessment and Balancing Technique for you.

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I really enjoy getting a Reiki session, or doing it on myself to figure out where I’m off balance. When I first started understanding the chakras, I couldn’t get out of the house fast enough to join a course. I learned a Chakra Assessment and Balancing Technique and took Level 1 and 2 Reiki within one month. My body detoxed rather quickly and cleared old blockages so that the energy could move more freely.

But the real work is in addressing the core issues that are troubling us and throwing our chakras out of whack all the time. No matter how much we detox, if those core issues are still present we will always be dealing with stuck energy.

In my next few blogs ill go chakra by chakra and discuss what these issues are (spiritually, emotionally and physically) and how we can help to bring them back in to balance ✌️❤️

 

10 Things Turning 30 Has Taught Me

Birthdays – a time of year people celebrate with friends and family, receive gifts and get old. Also a time when we determine exactly what we should have achieved by our next birthday, and beat ourselves up for not having achieved what we set out to the year before. As my 31st birthday approaches I thought it would be appropriate to share with you some key tidbits from this past year – things turning 30 has taught me.

1. IT’S NOT WHAT IT’S CRACKED UP TO BE

First off, turning 30 was a really big deal to me. It felt like 30 was the age that everything is supposed to come together – your career, your school loans are paid off, you’re married, you own a house and have kids running around and if not at least you’re pregnant. For most of us that is certainly not the case, nor does it need to be!

2. 30 IS A DEADLY TRAP OF COMPARISONS

As 30 approached last year I was terrified because I had none of these things. I found myself in the deadly trap of comparison. I saw other happy couples out walking their dogs and people from high school running successful businesses and I wanted to hate them. But instead I turned that frustration inward and started judging and resenting myself.

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3. 30 IS A MARKETING COMPANY’S WET DREAM

Here is a a woman who has just turned 30. She put a lot of pressure on herself to achieve things society told her she should have before her ass starts to sag and she is no longer appealing. Now she’s a woman who resents herself so much that she is willing to do anything – pay anything just to feel better. Que the infomercials and magazine ads.

4. YOU AREN’T A FAILURE JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE NOT “THRIVING” AT 30

I felt like a total failure because the perfect 30 life wasn’t mine. And then I felt even worse when what I had achieved (a career, an apartment and a relationship that I thought would last forever) all fell away at the drop of a hat when I was 30 and a half. Society wants me to be ashamed of that. To be ashamed that I’m not living a white picket fenced kind of lifestyle. That I’m not financially stable or married. That my boobs seem lower then they were when I was 29. That I have crows feet and laugh lines. Oh and grey hair! But I am not ashamed! Not of anything! In fact I am so empowered!

5. 30 IS THE NEW 20

I am a woman going in to her 31st year without her ducks in a row. I don’t have my shit together and I’m not afraid to admit that. How can anyone expect us to go to school, get a decent job, pay off loans, buy a house and get married in this day and age? The housing market is a disaster. We have to go to school for 30 years just to get an entry level position (exaggeration but you get the point). The expectations are unrealistic.

6. INTERNAL WORK IS THE ONLY JOB THAT WILL EVER REALLY MATTER

We work our asses off trying to get this perfect 9-5 job, but right now I am doing the hardest work there is to do. I am digging deeper internally and more feverishly, more fearlessly than most people will ever do in their lifetimes. The external stuff means nothing to me. People might look at me right now and think I need to get my priorities straight (even my parents, so don’t worry I don’t judge that comment – you’re entitled to think what you want) and although I appreciate your concern, I honestly don’t give a shit. If you’re feeling brave enough I invite you to drop your resume and embrace this job!

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7. 30 IS THE TIME TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF FULLY

After living for 30 years you’ve likely gained some insight as to who you are, and what works or doesn’t work well with you. If you’re anything like me you’ve learned you’re garbage at setting boundaries and following your intuition. But 30 is the time to really get your ass in gear and start honouring this. You’re an adult. Stop wasting your time. Get to know yourself, and fully own everything about you.

8. BEING PROUD ISN’T A BAD THING

I am proud of the woman I am today, and the woman I am becoming. And I will not apologize for taking the time I need to work on myself internally. I am unapologetic in my pursuit of self discovery. And I wish the same for you too!

9. WE LIMIT OURSELVES UNINTENTIONALLY

As it turns out, turning 30 wasn’t a total waste of time. Once I stopped comparing myself to others and trying to conform to the “ideal”. Turning 30 completely changed my life. Open your mind to possibilities beyond what you’ve imagined your life to look like at 30. The Universe has something better planned. Open yourself to that now!

10. 31 IS EVEN BETTER

This year I am really looking forward to my birthday. I am so excited to turn 31. This is a new kind of a birthday for me. It represents the first birthday I’ve ever had as a woman in her power. As a woman embracing her age, her wisdom, her wildness, and her authenticity. I’m taking all of the lessons I’ve learned this year and jumping head first into the next.

Happy (almost) Birthday to Me! ✌️❤️😀

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Women’s Empowerment – The Future is Female 💖

Mother’s Day just passed so a Women’s Empowerment post seems appropriate. That seems so ridiculous tho – doesn’t it? Why the f*ck are we only posting about the badass women we know one day out of the year?!

Women are beautiful, intuitive, passionate, nurturing, wild, loving people and deserve to be celebrated every minute of every day!! We’ve lived so long in a world that celebrates the accomplishments of men, and quiets the voices of women – telling us were either “too little” or “too much”. And somewhere along the line we started to believe that! We started judging other women – our sisters – telling them to stop being slutty or bitchy or needy.

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This needs to end.

It’s time for women to lift each other up, to stop comparing, to start owning exactly who we are – The Powerful Badass Warrior Women, and among them are those who literally birthed every single human on this planet!!! And it’s time for men to recognize the divine feminine in each of us, and in themselves and empower women to shine as brightly as they possibly can.

So do one thing today – tell yourself or a woman you love, or a woman you don’t even know, how f*cking amazing they are! 😀❤️✌️

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Are you an Empath? An Earth Angel? A Light Worker?

Who am I? What’s my purpose? The hardest questions that we’ve ever had to answer. Sometimes I think we only try to answer these questions when we are vibrating incredibly low (like after a break up, or major life trauma), which makes it even more difficult to address. Like Who TF am I? I have no idea! You tell me! And then the cycle starts of allowing other people to determine who we are.

It’s time for each of us to take that power back. We, and only we determine who we are, and what were supposed to do. Yes, like me, you may believe that parts of who you are were predetermined before you were born, but essentially you get to choose whether you engage with that aspect of Self.

I struggled with this at the beginning of this journey (and still do sometimes) because when you open yourself up spiritually there are SO many different gifts, titles, types that can guide you to your soul’s purpose on this earth.

Are you an Empath? a Yogi? A Goddess? A Hippie? An Earth Angel? A Light Worker? An Energy Healer? A Witch? A Teacher? A Spiritual Advisor? A Bohemian? A Guru? A Wanderer? A Psychic? An Intuitive Counsellor? A Clairvoyant? A Medium? A Wild Woman? A Shaman? A Medicine Man?

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In the last 6 months I have opened myself up to the possibility, and explored several of these concepts. I’ll keep it at 3 for now, as these 3 were the eye-opening names I needed to see. Keep in mind that this is a snippet of what I’ve come to learn about this incredibly vast world of purpose. So please comment below, add what you feel drawn to add, or correct me if Google wronged me.

Empath

I was already familiar with the idea of being an empath. A strong sense of empathy is required to work with vulnerable people (including social work – me), so I find that a lot of people in helping professions tend to land on the spectrum of highly sensitive people and empaths. An empath is someone who deeply feels the emotions and energies of other people around them. Empaths will absorb energy from people and environments, and can actually feel the pain other people are experiencing, or have experienced just from hearing their stories. This makes us extremely sensitive and usually quite adverse to being in huge crowds.

This is why the terms “self-care” and “boundaries” are used alllllll the time in social work. And why burnout, compassion fatigue and vicarious trauma are so prevalent. I believe that empaths can be incredible in helping professions (because they have an innate ability to connect with individuals) if they are aware of the impact energy has on them, and are able to set very strong boundaries and participate in heavy self-care rituals. Unfortunately, I was doing these things, but only to a certain extent and that ruined me (or so I thought).

At the time I came to realize that my burnout – my crash – was actually a spiritual calling, I began researching my soul’s purpose. Google was so helpful.

Initially I took a quiz in Emma Mildon’s book The Soul Seacher’s Handbook. I ended up being right on the line in between Earth Angel and Light Worker, both of which resonated nicely in my heart centre.

Earth Angel

Earth Angels are spiritual beings that are born to the earth, and called at a soul level to help humanity. They are “programmed” in a sense – to awaken to their true purpose through different life events. Earth Angels are not used to taking on physical form, as they have lived previously on the psychic and spirituals planes. They are here to help and to inspire others, and teach the message of light, love and peace. Earth Angels are on earth to help raise the vibration of the collective.

Light Worker

Light Workers are healers whose main purpose is to help others find their light. Light Workers hold space for others to be healed through the universal life force energy. They have often experienced their own crises in life and can acknowledge their shadow side. They have been “recharged” through a strong spiritual awakening. A Light Workers may also be called an Energy Healers or a Reiki Practitioners.


Sooo that’s where I started. Was I going around telling everyone that I’m an Earth Angel? Absolutely not. But I was inspired and I started exploring my intuition, my “abilities” if you will. I was reading about the spiritual realms and how I could connect with my true purpose. The answers that continued to be shown to me were to meditate daily, to use crystals regularly, to ask for guidance and to explore different divination tools (like pendulums or tarot cards). And to pray, or at least talk to my angels if “praying” doesn’t sit well with you – although if you are here reading about spirituality and universal energy, praying shouldn’t be what stands out as weird to you.

Every day I asked how I could serve for my higher purpose. How I could step in to my purpose and shine like I felt I needed to. I asked to be guided, shown, activated – whatever! I begged for this. And then I always said Thank you. Always.

I had some really intense spiritual moments when I begged like this. One time when I asked what my purpose was I heard “to teach”, and when I asked what I heard “about me”. Another time I pulled cards and out dropped “Workshops and Seminars” and “You are a Powerful Light Worker”. I cried… A lot. As I learn more about myself, I find my purpose shifts a little and as long as I keep going back to asking for that guidance and reassurance that I’m on the right path I am totally okay with that.

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If I can offer any advice, even as a new journeyor, don’t get caught up in the labels. They were helpful to me at the beginning because it gave me direction, it helped me to understand that I wasn’t the only person going through this. Do your research, find people that inspire you but remember this is your journey. You can be/do whatever you need to. Whatever you feel drawn to. You may have gifts that have yet to be discovered. Let spirit show you where you need to be. Your potential is endless. ✌️💖

3 Day Quote Challenge – Day 3 🦄✨

Thank you Bittermarshmellos (link below) for nominating me for this challenge!! Below are the rules and my nominations for today.

https://bittermarshmellos.wordpress.com

DAY 3 QUOTE:

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That’s it. Plain and simple. I don’t owe you an explanation. I have finally gotten to a point where I can love myself enough to say that 💖💖

Ever since I can remember I have dulled my sparkle to fit in to other people’s lives – to their perfect little boxes. I have dated people that have tried to outshine or extinguish my sparkle. I have had friends who have been intimated by my sparkle, and so I hid it.

I’ve been scared to shine because I might lose you. But that fear is gone.

If anyone in your life is making it uncomfortable for you to grow then they do not belong there. If there are people who don’t support, or are embarrassed by your fucking sparkle tell them to hit the road! Those are not your people anymore.

Your people are the ones who empower you, who encourage you, who challenge you to become better. Your people are cheerleaders, even when they don’t understand what they’re cheering for. They’re your sisters, your tribe. They’re the faceless wonders who like your blog. They’re the ones who lift you up, who fill you up! They’re the ones who clap for you when you say “because I fucking sparkle, that’s why” ❤️✌️


 

Rules for the challenge are :

1. Thank the person who have nominated you for the challenge.

2. Post 3 quotes (1 for each day) for 3 days consecutively.

3. Nominate three more bloggers for the same challenge each day.

Today’s Nominations:

✨Jessica – PersonalGrowth&Success

https://personalgrowthsuccessblog.com

✨Dear Kiwanna

https://dearkiwanna.com

✨Ashleyleia

https://mentalhealthathome.wordpress.com

3 Day Quote Challenge – Day 2 🙌💖

Thank you Bittermarshmellos (link below) for nominating me for this challenge!! Below are the rules and my nominations for today.

https://bittermarshmellos.wordpress.com

DAY 2 QUOTE:

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This quote comes from a poem by Maya Angelou. To read the whole poem, which I highly suggest you do, visit the link below. There is a biography for Ms. Angelou as well.

https://www.poets.org/poetsorg/poem/still-i-rise

This poem has meant a lot to me throughout this journey. I actually plan to have “still I rise” tattooed on me at the end of this month. It exudes confidence with such force, and demonstrates the value that we need to find within ourselves.  Despite judgments and opinions, she’s still going to rise. Are you? You will shine too bright for some, and you will find that people will try to blow out your flames to keep you down. But you can still rise up!

I believe she’s not only referring to the external forces that try to drive my bus, but also my ego, my inner critic and my saboteur. These suckers are strong. They fight me each and every day to stop this awakening, this transformation within me. They want to “protect” me, or at least years ago they did, but I’ve built them up with so much self doubt that they are huge obstacles to any kind of success now. But that’s just it – they’re only obstacles. Obstacles that, with commitment and hard work, can be overcome. Let go of fear, and rise!

My favourite part of this poem is at the very end,

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For those before me that couldn’t speak for fear of being killed. For those that didn’t make it through the dark tunnel of depression. For those who weren’t allowed to shine. I rise.

✌️❤️

Rules for the challenge are :

1. Thank the person who have nominated you for the challenge.

2. Post 3 quotes (1 for each day) for 3 days consecutively.

3. Nominate three more bloggers for the same challenge each day.

Today’s Nominations:

✨Widdershins Worlds

https://widdershinsfirst.com

✨emmalh

https://babyimbored.net

✨MagickMermaid

https://magickmermaid.wordpress.com

A Lonely Journey Towards Awakening – Where’s My Tribe?

I was told right off the hop that this journey would be a lonely one. I knew it would be, but I never expected what was coming.

I was grieving the loss of my relationship, I was trying to push through years worth of burnout and compassion fatigue to try and rebuild relationships with my family and friends, and I was drawn to things spiritually that most people pass judgment about instantly. It was hard for me to be around anyone for longer than 20 mins without feeling completely drained, but I forced myself to call at least one person per day and have a real conversation with them.

I have two friends that I could talk to about my journey. Everyone else I felt judged or misunderstood. I’m sure this had a lot to do with the fact that I barely understood what was awakening in me, and pieces of my ego were still making judgments about it.

My friends, and even my dad, are still willing to listen without judgment and entertain my desire to do card readings or reiki. My friends love crystals and even attempt meditating from time to time. They are as supportive as they can be of my journey, without actually going through it themselves. And they have absolutely no idea how deeply meaningful that is ❤❤

And this is where my heart knows that something is still missing. Whatever it is I’m going through – an awakening, a calling, divine purpose – I feel like I need people who are also going through it. People I can talk to about phases of the moon, the rising of the feminine, the law of attraction, frequency and vibrations of crystals, energy in all its forms, She… Someone who hears the word “witch” and doesn’t instantly want to run in fear of me casting spells against them. I need these people to lead me, to resonate with me, to inspire me. There is something bubbling so intensely on my surface and I dont know how to release it.

As much as people are awakening and this new-age spirituality is taking different forms and gaining a much larger following, it is still very difficult to find those people. To create a tribe of soul sisters, of moon goddesses, of gypsy spirits.

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It makes me wonder if most people are (like me) still hiding in what Rebecca Campbell calls their “spiritual closet”. In her book Rise Sister Rise, Campbell talks about this spiritual closet we hide out in, in order to protect our sacred beliefs. But she says;

“we must not waste our time hiding parts of who we are from the world around us. It is our weirdness, our secret passions, our deepest beliefs that make us who we are. Come out of whatever closet you are in”.

One of my wishes in creating this blog was to communicate with like-minded women and men who feel the energy shifting in the world, who feel the entirety of their core changing.

My other wish is two fold; that I could help people understand and have less judgment towards a spiritual calling, and even perhaps inspire those who are just starting their journey as I did a few months ago.

This journey is lonely in one way – but it is undeniably the most soul-filling feeling of connection that I’ve ever experienced. ✌❤

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3 Day Quote Challenge – Day 1 😀❤️

Thank you Bittermarshmellos (link below) for nominating me for this challenge!! Below are the rules and my nominations for today.

https://bittermarshmellos.wordpress.com

DAY 1 QUOTE:

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I went to see Amy Schumer’s new movie “I Feel Pretty” last night and this quote really resonates with the message I received sitting in that theatre arm deep in buttery popcorn. Self confidence IS a super power. I found myself admiring Amy and how she carried herself so confidently despite what other people may have judged about her. She strutted around like she owned the world, she wasn’t intimidated or anxious about anything she just owned it! There’s a message in the movie about how our child selves would walk around with our bellies out and wouldn’t care at all about what other people thought. Not that we all need to be half naked all the time, but we should be so in love with ourselves that we pay no mind to other opinions. And that is when the magic happens. The magic she exuded jumped off the screen and really inspired me to look closely at how I carry myself.

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Rules for the challenge are :

1. Thank the person who have nominated you for the challenge.

2. Post 3 quotes (1 for each day) for 3 days consecutively.

3. Nominate three more bloggers for the same challenge each day.

Today’s Nominations:

✨Jen Kennedy

https://shithappens.blog

✨Karissa Poulton

https://herewegrowagainblog.wordpress.com

✨E.

https://onegratefulthought.wordpress.com

 

 

Self ❤ Love: The Greatest🖕Middle Finger

When you cheated I was angry. I was hurt. I was heartbroken.

It’s incredible how one persons’ choice can turn your entire life upside down in one moment. In just one choice – one action – everything changes.

The initial reaction, the most comfortable reaction for our ego is anger. I was lied to, betrayed. I felt used. I was mad because I trusted them. I thought I knew them. I was even more mad at myself for letting someone get close enough to cause this pain, for giving them all of this power. I felt stupid and confused.

I questioned my value, and whether I was even worth being loved. I compared myself to her, to everyone. What had I done to make her look elsewhere? Where did I go wrong as a girlfriend? Why wasn’t I enough?

I was incredibly heartbroken, and lonely. With one choice, one action, I lost my best friend, the love of my life, my travel partner, my date, my rock. I was stripped, of everything, including the future I had expected.

I know deep down that this person wanted to love me. But I realized that they didn’t know how – they couldn’t. If they wanted to, they could have learned, changed, grew. But the universe knew that wasn’t meant to be. I realized they were never actually mine, and the fact that they couldn’t love me the way I expected them to was never in my control.

I could finally breathe.


I was grateful. I was hopeful.

And then, my mind silenced long enough to be grateful. I was grateful that this person chose me and loved me as deep as they could for almost five years. I was grateful that we had a lot of really awesome memories together. I was grateful that she introduced me to sober living. I was grateful that she encouraged and respected my spiritual growth. This was the most valuable gift anyone could have given me.

And I was grateful the relationship ended when it did, and the way it did.

I was hopeful because my eyes were open, and I had awakened. I was hopeful because this was the beginning of something beautiful and I could feel that. I felt it very strongly.


I was becoming…

On this day I knew I was moving in the direction of unapologetically loving myself. I took a big swig of that self love juice! I could take responsibility for my wrongs in the relationship, and I could be humble enough to recognize that it’s possible she stopped loving me without throwing a pity party or compromising my self worth.

I realized that sitting with all of these feelings is exactly what I needed to do. Allowing every feeling – even the desperately uncomfortable ones – to pass through my heart was crucial to my journey of self discovery, of soul searching and of self love. And it sucked. A LOT!

But….

Every day I get stronger.

My ex told me shortly after this that she felt like a pawn in my spiritual journey. That she felt like she was placed in my life to lead me somewhere, and then she was no longer necessary. And I believe there is truth to that. Relationships are in our lives for a reason, and when they have drawn their course they are removed. Trust the universe when a door closes, although it may hurt like nothing you’ve ever felt before, it may actually be the best thing that’s ever happened for you. ✌❤

Tarot Told Me To Leave My Partner

The first time I bought cards it was this Tarot Basics box. I was starting fresh – total newbie, purchasing a how-to book on top of that, as I didn’t know the box would come with a learning guide. I was a little messy at the time too ok? Don’t judge.

It had been about a month since I started a disability leave at work, and since my partner had cheated. She and I had just celebrated a rather awkward Christmas and New Years with our families and had decided on New Years day that it was best if she stayed with her parents for a day or two. My understanding was that she was going to figure out if she could actually commit to me. That’s how much I allowed other people to determine my path. She cheated, and I asked her to figure out if she could commit 🤔. We humans are a little loopy.

Anyways, she had been there two days so far and, it was a Wednesday (hump day – go figure – you’ll get the idea), I decided that I was going to treat myself to a new book and some sushi. I ended up in the New Age section at Chapters – all oogley eyed and inspired -and came across these Tarot cards. I figured it would be a fun way to entertain myself until my partner returned home (I told you I was messy). I also found Emma Mildon’s “The Soul Searchers Handbook”. It brought tears to my eyes! This was exactly the type of guide I was looking for.

Last night I did everything I was supposed to. I cleansed (or cleared) the cards, I consecrated them with my energy, I held them to my heart and bestowed blessings and intentions and I did a reading. I chose The Oracle Spread.

 

The Oracle Spread is 3 cards. The left card is the present problem, the middle card is the way out, and the third card (on the right obviously) is the future if you are prepared to follow that path. I asked a pretty basic question about what to do with my relationship and literally everything screamed RUN! 

 

  1. Present Problem: a farewell. Great danger of being sold short or cast as an extra. Current issue demands a lot of effort – putting down inner roots in order to scale greater heights in outward life.
  2. Way Out: end of a journey or eternal repetition or vicious cycle. Discover your personal values and what is truly essential for you.
  3. The Future: rebirth. Bury what is dead and be open to receive what is to come. Learn to forgive without forgetting. Draw the line.

-journal entry Jan 2018

I didn’t trust them, or maybe I did, and I just refused to follow through with the guidance. You see, at this point I knew deep down that my relationship was over. But I wasn’t quite ready to give up the fairy tale I had created in my mind. So much of reading cards is intuition. I knew what these cards were telling me right away and I chose to ignore them. I wasn’t quite ready to make such a big decision for myself. So I allowed my mind to race through all the possibilities of becoming a stronger couple, of being fought for and adored wholeheartedly. But it didn’t feel natural.

I woke up the next morning and cried. I cried for a sign – any sign – of what to do.  Not even five minutes later I found out that my partner had cheated again. While I was doing my card reading, she was “reading” someone else… if you know what I mean 😉 Now, this is not intended to make my ex out to be a terrible person – she isn’t. She was struggling just as I was. Though I don’t agree with the way in which things ended, I do believe they were meant to end between us. And maybe this was the only way my stubborn ass would let go of the fairy tale. I had fought against the universe for awhile. And I’ve heard it a few times that the universe will show you gentle sings, if you don’t listen they’ll give you a little nudge, or two, and if you still don’t listen you will get a good smack. I got smacked.

And back to the actual point… my first experience with Tarot was incredibly accurate, and that hasn’t changed since!! It continues to get stronger as I become familiar with the cards, and as I choose decks that I am drawn to. I have had some really cool experiences where I end up in a puddle of tears because I am so mesmerized. The cards never cease to bring me hope, validation and encouragement. Sometimes they knock me down a peg or two, but to me its like a best friend telling you the raw, hard truth, even though you don’t want to hear it. The divine messages that come through these cards are only meant to lead you to your highest good.

I really like keeping a diary of my readings because there are times I still rebel against them and choose not to listen. When I find myself wondering where things went wrong I can look back in my diary and see that it was me pushing against the grain again, and not following the guidance the universe provides. Essentially these readings allow my trust in the universe to grow, and my trust in my own intuition ❤️✌️


🌸 Spreads I Enjoy 🌸

  • I like the spread Tiffany Maloney discussed a few years ago in this blog;

https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-18172/how-to-do-a-basic-tarot-reading-for-yourself-or-a-friend.html

  • And here are a few of my favourite spreads I found on Pinterest;

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