WTF is a Crown Chakra?!

Seventh and final blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired. Once you finish this post you should have a pretty good idea about which of your chakras needs the most help and which are actually pretty balanced… atleast for today. Learning about the chakras was a total game changer for me. My mind/body/soul awareness meter definitely hit a new high score. Once you can feel that a chakra is off balance it’s easy to work with it. Start wearing the colour associated with that chakra, meditate with corresponding crystals, say the affirmations, go for a Reiki or Chakra Balancing session. And honestly, just Google it – find something that works for you if these suggestions aren’t enough.

The Crown Chakra (or Sahasrana) is located at the very top of our head – where we would wear a crown. It’s the last chakra in the ladder, and in my opinion the most important. This chakra is our direct link to spirituality and the universal  source. It is our connection to spirit and their world, the divine and enlightenment. The Crown Chakra connects us to our higher selves. The colour associated here is white, or violet.

Crown 👑 = top of head = spirituality = white light energy (or Source)

When our Crown Chakra is balanced we know that we are a part of the collective, and we are connected to and are interested in a higher purpose. We are confident that we have a place, and purpose in this world. We have a clear vision and know that we are spiritually awake.

When this chakra is unbalanced we can feel mentally, spiritually and physically disconnected;

Mentally ➡️confused, unfocused, cynical, close-minded, unsatisfied with anything in life, depressed, bored, self-limiting beliefs…

Spiritually ➡️loss of faith, distrusting or disbelieving in a higher power, very materialistic and ego driven, no feeling of purpose…

Physically ➡️disconnected from sensations in your body, headaches/migraines, sensitivity to light. This Crown Chakra is associated with the brain, the pituitary gland, the endocrine system, the central nervous system and the cerebral cortex. An imbalance may lead to neurological dksorders, dementia, Parkinson’s etc…

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To bring the Crown Chakra back in to balance sit in silence in the sun. Thought and light are elements that fuel this chakra. Use Amethyst, Clear Quartz and Selenite to meditate, and repeat the affirmations below. For the Crown Chakra especially, it is extremely important to develop a consistent, spiritual routine.

For myself, I’m getting in the groove of reading before I go to sleep, waking up and lighting an incense and candle and sitting in silence in front of my altar. Then I do a card reading. I do meditations about 4 times a week, but I want to be more vigilant with this and get back to every day. Find what works for you, and what you truly enjoy doing that makes you feel connected, and build a routine around that ✌️❤️

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WTF is a Third Eye Chakra?!

Sixth blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired. Almost Done! Kind reminder time; it takes more than just reading these posts to balance your chakras. The real work is up to you, especially at this phase in the game. Do your research! The intention for this series is to give you a quick snapshot of each chakra so that you can start to pay more attention to your body and know what each chakra works with. Secondly, if you don’t know what I mean when I say “chakra” there is a “WTF is a Chakra” post at the beginning of this series. Read it first.

The Third Eye Chakra (brow chakra or Ajna) is located on the forehead directly in the centre of your eyebrows (or unibrow for some – no judgment). This chakra packs the punch. Not only is it my favourite colour – like a deep purple/blue but it’s the main point of entry for the universal life force energy. Meaning energy enters our body through our Third Eye and this chakra distributes the energy throughout our body. The Third Eye Chakra is known as the seat of intuition, wisdom and spiritual insight. It provides us with an entirely new way of seeing.

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So… Third Eye, in between your other eyes – sees beyond what the other two see – intuition – and I think you’ll just need to remember that its deep purple because I’m stumped for some clever way to remember that. Comment below if you’re more creative than me 😉

Our Third Eye Chakra brings us a whole new level of awareness when it’s balanced. Our thinking and our vision becomes more clear, and inevitably that allows us to focus on the bigger picture with ease. When it’s unbalanced it can leave us feeling unmotivated, depressed, anxiety ridden and fearful of the unknown. We will remain stuck in problem thinking and will feel a gigantic block in our intuition and our psychic abilities. Someone who hasn’t awoken their Third Eye Chakra will feel stuck in the daily grind of every day life (yuck). They might lack inspiration and clarity and be unable to establish any sort of vision for themselves or their lives. Monotonous everything.

Physically an imbalance can effect the brain, eyes, and pituitary glands. This can lead to migraines, seizures, sinusitis, poor vision, sciatica and problems regulating or getting to sleep.

Someone with a blocked Third Eye will likely reject all things spiritual. Or they may believe in God, but shut down everything else that may require a deeper connection and some imagination. The Third Eye Chakra allows us to see in to the spiritual realm. It is linked to psychic abilities like Clairvoyance and Clairaudience. When it’s in balance we are connected, we are wise, intuitive, and magical.

To awaken our Third Eye Chakra it is incredibly important to meditate as often as possible. There are hundreds of meditations on YouTube you can try. I started with guided visualizations and then moved to just music where I can do my own visualizations. I find these to be very powerful in developing your third eye. Pay attention to the ways in which it feels and looks different when you are using your third eye, as opposed to eye #1 and #2. For me, even the thoughts I have change. Don’t be discouraged when the things you witness with your third eye are hard to explain or describe to someone else. Use your intuition!! Really reign in on what your inner voice and your gut are telling you, and don’t question it or doubt yourself.

Another way to build your psychic powers and awaken your third eye is through divination tools. Use Oracle Cards or a Pendulum. Talk to Spirit, ask for help. Participate in a moon ritual – the Full Moon is a fantastic time to open this chakra.

Lapis Lazuli, Lavender Quartz, Purple Fluorite and Lepidolite are crystals that I like to use with the Third Eye Chakra. You can hold them (or even charge them) with these affirmations;

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WTF is a Throat Chakra?!

Fifth blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired.

The Throat Chakra (or Vishuddha) is located right where you might guess. In the hollow of the throat (points for being a genius 🤓). In honour of keeping it simple, the Throat Chakra deals with our ability to communicate. It’s our hub of expression; self expression, expression of emotions, creative expression and non verbal expression. The colour associated with this chakra is Blue. I just pulled the phone-a-friend card and asked how to make it easy to remember that the Throat Chakra is blue – water she said! You gotta drink water, lube your throat to communicate – totally makes sense.
So here it is; Throat = communication = water = blue.

A balanced Throat Chakra helps you to know what you want in life, and express yourself confidently and responsibly. You’re able to reflect and explore with courage and honesty, and share your authentic self with the rest of the world. You won’t be afraid to ask for what you want because you’ll do it with integrity and respect.

When your Throat Chakra is off balance you will have trouble expressing yourself. This may look like a creative block, difficulty speaking your truth, social anxiety or excessive fear of speaking in front of a crowd. If there’s a block in this chakra you could be wondering why you just can’t stop lying. You can become very critical of others, verbally aggressive and gossipy. People with an imbalance in this chakra tend to be loud and are often yelling. They have a tendency of interrupting people and are intolerant of others’ opinions.

Physically the Throat Chakra has an impact on your neck, shoulders, ears, mouth, jaw, and thyroid. This could potentially look like chronic sore throats or bronchitis, mouth ulcers or cold sores, thyroid problems, neck pain and headaches.

The Throat Chakra serves as a mediator between our emotions (heart) and our mind (thoughts). When there is an imbalance we can become distrustful of our inner voice, and disconnected spiritually. This builds upon the disconnect you already feel because an unbalanced Throat Chakra already prevents you from realizing your truth, and purpose. It is very important to keep this chakra balanced if you want to move forward spiritually.

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Sodalite and Aquamarine are my favourite crystals associated with the Throat Chakra. I actually have a Sodalite wand that I use to direct the energy in or away from my throat. When we are trying to grow spiritually it is incredibly important that we learn to speak our truth and feel safe doing so.

A couple of ways I have used to balance this chakra are;

  1. Journaling – be as raw and vulnerable as you can be. If you can’t be honest in your own journal then you’ve got a problem.
  2. Find someone you trust and tell them your deepest secret. The one that always sits at the peak of your mind and plays like a movie on repeat. Get it out.
  3. Wear blue, and decorate a room with some blue accents. Both my bathroom and my bedroom have shades of blue. Its not a sad colour, it’s calming and supportive especially a dark blue.
  4. Reassure your friends and family when they are speaking. Let them know that what they are saying is important, and honest. Eventually you will start saying it to yourself.

Grab that trusty mirror again and repeat the affirmations below…

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WTF is a Heart Chakra?!

Fourth blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired.

The Heart Chakra (Anahata) is located in the centre of your chest (shouldn’t be hard to figure out why 🤔). The Heart Chakra encompasses our capacity to accept and feel unconditional love, compassion and joy. The colour associated is Green. This chakra falls right in the middle of our 7 main chakras and represents the space where the physical and spiritual worlds meet. It reminds us that beneath all of our basic, human problems there is a purity within us. Spiritual love so deep that it takes on the colour of nature to show us how connected we are.
Heart = love = green like nature (deep spiritual love).

When our Heart Chakra is off balance we will feel unworthy of love. We won’t be able to accept love fully, and we will lack the ability to trust others, and ourselves. You know those walls that we build once we get hurt? We think we’re protecting ourselves by adopting these defense mechanisms that push people away and keep our hearts safe – those walls are deeply connected to this chakra. When they’re up, you are literally closing this chakra and the wheel isn’t moving any energy. This makes us closed off, defensive, antisocial, heartless little meanies. We hold grudges easily, are unkind, irritable, bossy and overly critical with others.

When in balance this chakra is respectful and encouraging. It allows people (including ourselves) to be who they really are, and loves them for it. We are quick to forgive because we empathize and are ruled by understanding and compassion.

Physically our heart (duh), our chest, arms, hands and ribs can be impacted by an imbalance in the Heart Chakra. This can show in heart problems, difficulty breathing, hypertension, poor circulation etc…

You know when you are sitting across from someone and they smile at you, and you feel this warmth in your chest and little chills down your arms? That’s your Heart Chakra saying there’s a pretty solid chance you love them.
As the middle chakra, and the centre of love, awareness, compassion and empathy, spirituality runs strongly throughout this one. When our Heart Chakra is open we have faith that we are all connected. We know that we are born from and to be divine love. We have the ability to grieve and reach peace through spiritual understanding.

Whenever you feel that this chakra needs some balance, shift your attitude. Chances are you’re feeling cynical, judgmental, hurt, or upset and that’s okay. Sometimes it’s important to feel those things and allow them to process through, and once you’re ready to balance out again think Gratitude. Remind yourself of all the beautiful people, places and things that you have in your life and express your thanks for them.

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Meditation is a very strong remedy for an imbalance in this chakra as it connects your physical body and mind to the spiritual worlds. And music, but not the angry, head banging shit. Unless that’s how you want to feel, that’s totally up to you.

I’m only going to recommend one crystal here because I swear by it when it comes to the Heart Chakra. Rose Quartz. Rose Quartz everything! Necklace, bracelet, tumble stone in your bra, scentsy cubes, display crystals. It doesn’t matter, just Rose Quartz it up however you can. It helps dissolve emotional wounds, and makes you feel safe to lower those walls again. It prevents and destroys fears and resentments. It helps you to attract love, romance and intimacy, and even helps you keep it 😉 . It opens up your Heart Chakra to allow you to love openly and freely. What else is there that really matters in this world?!

So… Are you choosing Love or Fear today? ✌️❤️

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WTF is a Sacral Chakra?!

Second blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired.

The Sacral Chakra (or Svadhistana) is my fave, and certainly the one I’ve done the most work with. It is located in your ponch (don’t be embarrassed, we all have one) in between your belly button and your privates. This chakra represents the hub of our emotions, and our sexual energy centre. It’s our emotional and creative responses to the core issues from the Root Chakra. The colour associated with this chakra is orange.

Hmmmm… An easy way to remember this one? Sacral… sacred (sex) and orange is spicy and fiery like our emotions, and like some sex 😋

When our Sacral Chakra is out of balance we will struggle with intimate relationships, (with others and with ourselves) and I don’t just mean sexually, though that is definitely a part of it. We will be codependent, needy and whiny little twits. We will seek pleasure in unhealthy ways. We will struggle with addiction, jealousy and rage. We will either hide our feelings completely or we will use them to manipulate and control other people.

Physically our reproductive organs, kidney, bladder and lower back will be impacted. We might experience infertility, testicular diseases, cramping (ugh) etc… I was diagnosed with Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) and I can guarantee this was my Sacral Chakra screaming at me to pay attention because it was shutting down.

This one was a big one for me spiritually. The Sacral Chakra is connected to the Divine Feminine in all of us. It is associated with the moon, and goddess energies. Only once I was able to fully embrace this chakra was I able to discover my authentic self, love myself freely and unapologetically, and speak my truth without shame and judgment.

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You know what? This one was a big one for me just in general. If you’ve read any of my previous blogs, or my “about me” section, you know I’ve suffered from severe burnout. Most of us have, in one way or another. For those of us who are empaths, I cannot even stress how important it is to pay attention to this chakra.

If you have experienced any imbalance in relationships. If you’ve ever felt guilty for shining too bright. If you’ve ever felt insecure about sharing how you feel. If you’ve ever been a girl – been told not to eat too much, spend too much, talk too much, cry too much, or have too much sex. If you’ve ever been ashamed about enjoying sex with a partner, or multiple partners… Focus on this chakra!

Pull some orange into your wardrobe. Buy an orange blanket and cuddle up to it. Meditate with Citrine, Carnelian or Moonstone. Practice mindfulness – jackpot!! Be mindful of your thoughts and intentions and watch how these impact your emotions. Be aware of these emotions and how they feel in your body. If it feels good, then enjoy it! Find a solid balance between discipline and passion. It is vital that we find joy in this life!!

Explore yourself inside and out, and fall in love with everything you find ❤️✌️

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WTF is a Root Chakra?!

First blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired. If you don’t know what a chakra is please go back and read the first one.

The Root (or base or Muladhara) Chakra is located at the base of your spine. It might be confusing to some of you that were starting in the middle of your body as opposed to the top of your head or your feet, but that’s just how it is. Think Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. The base of the triangle is the basic necessities of being a human; food, shelter, safety and security. This is the stuff that the Root Chakra deals with. The colour associated with it is Red. Red is primitive, it is strength, it is survival.
Root. Base (base of spine). Basic needs. Red. Survival. Ya following so far? Awesome!

When our Root Chakra is out of balance we are ruled by fear and anxiety. We have a strong sense that something is unsafe. We are worried about our job, our relationships, our bills. We don’t feel grounded, some might even call us “flighty” or forgetful.

Physically, our lower body is affected by an imbalance with our Root Chakra (again this just means that the wheel isn’t turning perfectly to allow free flow of energy). This could show in our feet, legs, bones, bowels, private parts etc…

Spiritually, a Root Chakra imbalance may demonstrate an insecure sense of belief, or no belief system at all. You may believe that the world is out to get you. Or you may just be trying to figure out exactly what you do believe in.

If any of this resonates, take a moment to ground yourself now. Put on something red. Stand up tall, feet planted on the ground. Visualize your body transforming in to a tree. <<Be The Tree>> See the roots shoot from the bottom of your feet deep, deep down in to the earth. Roots so strong they are impossible to break. Breathe deeply in to this feeling of stability and strength. Know that everything will be okay. You will make it work.

For most of us an imbalance in our Root Chakra will occur at a very young age, so young we might forget how it even got there. Because the Root Chakra deals with your sense of security and safety, if something happened when you were a child to make you question these things, this is likely where you are still carrying it. Tiny impressions will create little blockages, each time an impression is triggered it gets bigger and bigger, and bigger and creates blockages so strong that it can shut down the entire chakra.

Core issues associated with the Root Chakra are often very deep rooted (😋) fears. Fear of abandonment for example, is a big one here, and that sucker can be triggered in so many different areas of our lives. You might find it beneficial to have a conversation (or 10) with a therapist. This chakra lays the groundwork for our lives. So don’t f*ck around. If you don’t feel safe to grow, to love, to be, then what are you honestly going to achieve?

Now, go grab yourself some Red Garnet, Black Tourmaline and maybe even some Hematite. Look in to a mirror and say the following affirmations;

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8 Best Crystals for Healing and How to Use Them Every Day

One of the first things I started working with were crystals. Crystals for healing are incredibly useful. But how do crystals heal? Not only are they beautiful but they have such high vibrational properties that the moment you are aligned with them your own vibration starts to rise. Different crystals have different healing properties and the descriptions can be extensive. Luckily we don’t have to memorize everything we read about crystals. Often times it’s the one you are most drawn to that you need that day, or it can also be the one you are least drawn to and resisting. As with everything else in the realm of spirituality, let your intuition be your guide. Tune in to your body, your feelings, and just pick one or two or five. You literally can’t go wrong.

1. Citrine

Citrine is a great crystal for healing because of its self-expression properties. Citrine helps with self-esteem and self-image, it helps to assert personal will and facilitates new beginnings. Citrine is associated with the solar plexus chakra which encapsulates our relationship with ourself.

2. Amethyst

Amethyst is a wonderful crystal for healing symptoms of stress and anxiety. It is a calming stone, and it helps with insomnia and warding off nightmares. Amethyst comes from the Greek word amethystos which means “not drunken” and has been known to support those dealing with addictions. It is associated with the crown chakra which is a direct reflection of your spiritual connection.

3. Sodalite

Sodalite is a very effective crystal for those who experience mood swings. Its vibration helps to balance out emotions and instill a sense of calm. Sodalite also activates the throat chakra, making it easier to communicate effectively and speak your personal truth. Sodalite helps you to connect with your intuition making you more aware of what your body/mind/spirit needs in this moment to heal itself.

4. Aquamarine

Aquamarine is an important crystal for anyone who experiences anxiety or fear. It is calming, soothing and promoted courage. Aquamarine helps us to heal by aligning and balancing each of our chakras. Aquamarine supports manifestation and protection.

5. Rose Quartz

Everyone knows Rose Quartz for its loving healing properties. It is the crystal of unconditional love, compassion and kindness. It promotes emotional healing, especially after a break up or a death of a loved one. Rose Quartz helps you to give and receive the love that you are so deserving of. It also brings a sense of calm, peace, and joy to your life.

6. Pyrite

Pyrite is a great protection crystal, meaning that it will block negative energy from entering your aura. It is grounding, and offers support around manifestation and inspiration. Pyrite will enhance your will so that it’s easier to make it through troubling times in our lives. It promotes good physical health. Pyrite is a good crystal to use if you need the motivation and follow through to accomplish health related goals.

7. Lepidolite

Lepidolite is known as the “stone of transition”. It helps to induce change from old behavioural patterns or attitudes that are no longer serving your higher purpose. Lepidolite brings deep emotional healing, so it supports with symptoms of stress and depression. It can also be used to support recovery from illness, such as addiction. It brings independence, trust and self-love.

8. Turquoise

Last, but certainly not least is Turquoise, aka the “master healer”. Turquoise can be used to balance and realign any chakra. For centuries it has been known as the crystal that connects heaven and earth. It has an incredibly high vibration of love and offers a calm and soothing experience to any one who uses it.

How to use crystals on a daily basis…

I have a beautiful display of crystals on my altar, and at first that’s where they stayed. I had no idea how to actually use them for anything, I just knew I wanted them, and I felt really good when I was around them. Here’s a few ways I have learned to use them on a daily basis;

  • Prescriptions: Google it! There are prescriptions for self confidence, for overcoming fear, for attracting abundance, for love. Literally for everything you can think of. I used one once for a tummy ache and after 3 days of upset stomach I was relieved… for a few hours. But those few hours were heavenly!
  • Meditations: Crystals will enhance meditations ten fold. Sit with a crystal that it is connected to the crown chakra on your lap, or in front of you while you meditate. The vibration from the crystal will support the opening of your crown and facilitate the connection of higher self.
  • Manifesting: stones like Aquamarine who are linked to manifestation can be held when you are speaking affirmations to help with manifesting them into reality. If you hold a Turquoise and say “I am healed” you better expect some serious healing energy coming your way!
  • Put a crystal in your pocket to help bring you whatever kind of energy you need throughout the day.
  • Lay down or sit for a few minutes – kick your feet up, you deserve it! And place a crystal (or 7) on the corresponding chakra to help the energy flow. Visualize the crystal sending rays of coloured energy in through your chakra. This will help to balance and align that chakra.
  • Place them strategically around your house. Amethyst on your bedside table or under a pillow, or Citrine in the financial corner to attract prosperity (the furthest corner to the left from your front door).

So next time you are debating whether or not you need to get that crystal, don’t pick the one you think is prettiest. Pick the one you are being pulled towards, or if you’re brave the one you are totally repelled by. You will be surprised the difference it makes when you are working with a crystal that is totally meant for you.

Another fun idea is to bring a child with you shopping. Ask them to pick the best crystal for healing, specifically for you. Children are incredibly intuitive and will often pick the exact one you need. And remember you cannot make a mistake here, the only thing holding you back is you ❤✌

Process Those Emotions Through Your Heart

I surprised myself after the break up. I hadn’t really cried. I was sad, and I was mad. But I dealt with these things as I normally do, I let them go, brushed them off. I let them go because I refused to let them impact my spiritual progress (little did I know that was doing the opposite). I wondered if this was normal. If it was too simple. If it was even addressing the issue. I asked my therapist if I was dealing with things properly…

This question turned in to a long conversation about processing emotions. And even after I went home I opened up my Instagram and it seemed that every other post on my feed was speaking to me about this. Go figure we’re all human.

Here’s five general points that sat well with me, and still do…

1) Throughout our lives we create blockages in our bodies with the energy from feelings that have not been processed. These turn in to impressions (beliefs about ourselves or others) which can get stimulated by events, people, “triggers” essentially, and end up creating fears, negative feelings of self doubt etc…

2) When we encounter a new event that causes emotions to arise, and we need to keep our heart open, so not to create another blockage (because no one wants a blockage!). We have to allow the emotion to work it’s way through our bodies, and channel directly through our heart centres (be it sadness, anger, disappointment, worry etc…).

3) It can be a painful process, frankly it hurts like hell and feels like you’re going to drown in a puddle of tears, and it is necessary. How many times have you “dealt” with your feelings around something just to see the same thing pop up again and again and again? The more we try to suppress our feelings, distract ourselves by saying we’ll deal with it another day, the harder it gets to actually process it effectively. And when it already hurts like hell you don’t want to make it any worse.

4) There is a huge difference between allowing emotions or feelings to channel through your heart, and sitting in your shit. I tell myself it is completely healthy and okay to sit in “victim-mode” and grieve for a certain amount of time – be it an hour, or a day depending on the level of emotion I’m feeling – and then that’s it. I release it. I refuse to let that emotion or thought bog me down any longer. I refuse to become it. I refuse to become the thoughts that arise from the emotion. That’s just plain toxic.

5) Processed or – even better- released emotions can become powerful motivators for positive change. Instead of being stuck in a never ending cycle of bullshit, process your emotions, allow them to channel through you. With this experience of purification, and releasing of blockages you open yourself up to the universal flow of energy. This is when the healing takes place. When we allow the energy to travel to our heart, our soul is there to meet it, and our soul holds the answers.

So how do you do this? I sat in my basement apartment, locked the door, grabbed a tea and I started writing. I sat with myself for hours, and I wrote and cried, and wrote mean things (which I later burnt) and cried, and wrote all of the feelings I was ashamed to admit and cried some more. I called my mom and was grateful that she created space for me to continue crying, to vent, and then to be comforted. I asked her to tell me everything would be okay. I knew in my heart that it would be (that’s the key to not sitting in your shit) but I needed her to say it.

Essentially I gave myself permission to feel. To REALLY FEEL.

****There may be some of you reading this that don’t feel safe allowing yourself to fully feel, and please know that’s ok. Maybe its not time yet, or maybe you can talk to someone about how to create a safe space for you to do this.

It’s important to find a way that works specifically for you. It will look different for everyone. Maybe you need to listen to sappy love songs, or loud screamer songs. Maybe you need to go to a rage room, or just call a close friend that allows you to vent fully without judgment. Maybe you need to do some painting, or go sit near the lake. Whatever it looks like, when the tears start flowin, DON’T STOP THEM! Allow them – give yourself permission to feel them. Pay attention to how the energy feels making it’s way through your body, and in to your heart. Once it’s in your heart your soul will know when it’s ready to be released ❤✌

Self ❤ Love: The Greatest🖕Middle Finger

When you cheated I was angry. I was hurt. I was heartbroken.

It’s incredible how one persons’ choice can turn your entire life upside down in one moment. In just one choice – one action – everything changes.

The initial reaction, the most comfortable reaction for our ego is anger. I was lied to, betrayed. I felt used. I was mad because I trusted them. I thought I knew them. I was even more mad at myself for letting someone get close enough to cause this pain, for giving them all of this power. I felt stupid and confused.

I questioned my value, and whether I was even worth being loved. I compared myself to her, to everyone. What had I done to make her look elsewhere? Where did I go wrong as a girlfriend? Why wasn’t I enough?

I was incredibly heartbroken, and lonely. With one choice, one action, I lost my best friend, the love of my life, my travel partner, my date, my rock. I was stripped, of everything, including the future I had expected.

I know deep down that this person wanted to love me. But I realized that they didn’t know how – they couldn’t. If they wanted to, they could have learned, changed, grew. But the universe knew that wasn’t meant to be. I realized they were never actually mine, and the fact that they couldn’t love me the way I expected them to was never in my control.

I could finally breathe.


I was grateful. I was hopeful.

And then, my mind silenced long enough to be grateful. I was grateful that this person chose me and loved me as deep as they could for almost five years. I was grateful that we had a lot of really awesome memories together. I was grateful that she introduced me to sober living. I was grateful that she encouraged and respected my spiritual growth. This was the most valuable gift anyone could have given me.

And I was grateful the relationship ended when it did, and the way it did.

I was hopeful because my eyes were open, and I had awakened. I was hopeful because this was the beginning of something beautiful and I could feel that. I felt it very strongly.


I was becoming…

On this day I knew I was moving in the direction of unapologetically loving myself. I took a big swig of that self love juice! I could take responsibility for my wrongs in the relationship, and I could be humble enough to recognize that it’s possible she stopped loving me without throwing a pity party or compromising my self worth.

I realized that sitting with all of these feelings is exactly what I needed to do. Allowing every feeling – even the desperately uncomfortable ones – to pass through my heart was crucial to my journey of self discovery, of soul searching and of self love. And it sucked. A LOT!

But….

Every day I get stronger.

My ex told me shortly after this that she felt like a pawn in my spiritual journey. That she felt like she was placed in my life to lead me somewhere, and then she was no longer necessary. And I believe there is truth to that. Relationships are in our lives for a reason, and when they have drawn their course they are removed. Trust the universe when a door closes, although it may hurt like nothing you’ve ever felt before, it may actually be the best thing that’s ever happened for you. ✌❤

8 Ways to Speak to Angels

16 days after I started my journey I was introduced to the concept of Angels. I signed up for a meditation at a salt cave – incredible experience, highly recommend it! For one of the meditations Darota – the facilitator who is also a Medium, had us walking through an Amethyst cave with 2 Archangels, Michael and Raphael. When the meditation was over Darota read each of us.

“For me she started off by saying I am very connected to the Divine – that I get messages from Angels daily. She said the Angels want me to start asking for guidance instead of making up my own mind and jumping from this to that all the time. She wasn’t wrong on that – my head has been everywhere the past few days. She told me the Angels know where I’m supposed to be but they are hesitant to tell me because I will jump on it, and they need to know that I will be able to trust the journey”.

– journal entry Dec 2017.

After this meditation I bought a book called “Angels and other Mysteries of the Tree of Life” by Omraam Mikhael Aivanhov. I really connected with what he had to say about God. He says how crazy we are as humans to think that God actually comes to talk to us personally. He explains that God is raw energy. Energy that we use on earth requires sooooo many downgrades from its original form so that it doesn’t kill us every time we turn a light on or plug something in. As powerful as God is, he would literally kill us – we would blow up, if he was anywhere near us. This is why he sends his Angels, and this is why there are different tiers of Angels.

Archangels and Guardian Angels are the lowest, the closest to earth, but very high vibrational being a nonetheless. They can communicate to humans using signs, or through our own inner voice. Any messages received from us are relayed through the tiers, and only the most important ones are passed to God.

Archangels, Guardian Angels, and even Spirit Guides (once human and have now ascended) are surrounding us every minute of every day, but the key here, is that Angels can’t interfere unless we ask them to. We need to be open to receiving the guidance, comfort and protection that’s available to us. It is believed that our Angels were chosen for us before we even made it to earth. They are here to support our highest good, and help us to reach our true and divine purpose.

Here are 8 ways in which I have spoken to my Angels;

1.  Do a meditation. There are plenty of guided meditations on YouTube that will allow you to connect with Angels. Some will leave space for you to ask direct questions, some will lead you to meet your Angels, get their name or go on a journey with them.

2. Ask them to show you they are here with a physical object. This isn’t like “throw a chair across the room”. I asked my Angels to show me a real flower on that particular day. It was the dead of winter. I was patient all day long, I went about my day as a usually would, and while I was getting an oil change my friend, who came with me to wait, bless her heart, pointed out the real flowers in the waiting room. It wasn’t anything spectacular to anyone else, but I knew it was my sign.

3. Use Oracle cards or other Divination tools. I have several sets of Oracale cards I like to use, and I’ve also tried a Pendulum and Tarot cards to get answers from the Angels. It’s important to invite Angels and Spirits to your card readings and ask that they allow clear and accurate readings and bless everyone involved. I also like to ask for help to be open minded and intuitive, and for the courage to follow through on the guidance I receive.

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4. Do Reiki. Reiki helps to enhance your connection to spiritual energy. Use this time to connect with your Angels and ask that they help you release any blockages and let the energy flow through you.

5. Go for a Nature Walk.  Nature as a whole has an incredible spiritual presence. Take your shoes off, connect with the earth. Mother Nature is all around you. Strike up a conversation.

6. Journal. I’ve asked my Angels to speak through me as I journal. I’ve written something down and then go back to read it, and what it says is different than what I was thinking. Some people also refer to Automatic Writing – you’ll often see Mediums using this when they are conversing with spirits who have passed on.

7. Pay Attention to Numbers. I’ve noticed that when my Angels really want me to connect with them they will show me 11:11 A LOT, or any sequence of numbers. 3:33, 4:44… Usually when I see these numbers I say Hi, and thank them for hanging out with me.

8.  Start and End the Day with a Conversation. In the morning ask the Angels to be with you today, to guide you and help you to be mindful and open to signs. Always, always, always give thanks to your Angels in the evening, or before you go to bed.

Writing this post just reminded me of the John Travolta movie “Michael” where he plays a cigarette smoking, ass scratching, ladies man kind of Angel. I’m sure I’ve got one or two of those types hanging out with me as well.

I’m sure my Angels are just relieved that I finally started to acknowledge them. Yours will be too! ❤️✌️

 

How Do You Build A Sacred Space?

So most of us don’t have the means to travel to faraway lands, escape to beautiful temples, or renovate our entire home to find some peace. So then, how do we build a sacred space? Honestly, between everything that we do in a day, when do we ever take time to ourselves to sit and reflect, to refuel? If we do it’s in the car while we’re driving to our next appointment, or the coffee shop washroom, or once we get home and plop on the couch to watch Netflix. (Plop seems like the wrong choice of word after having talked about a washroom – but I don’t care, it made me laugh). But I’ve got a secret for you.. You are more than capable of creating a small space for yourself, and it will change your life!

“A Soul Searcher’s sanctuary is the key to their sanity in a world where sanity’s thin on the ground, so don’t underestimate the power of sorrounding yourself with happy chi”.

– Emma Mildon. “The Soul Searcher’s Handbook”, 2015

Having a sacred space (or some call it a “sanctuary”) has been a HUGE blessing throughout this journey. That’s one awesome thing that my ex ended up doing near the end of our relationship. Between the cheating, she actually found time to create a sacred space. She transformed our second bedroom in to this beautifully calm and relaxing room. I spent the entire month of December in this room, unless I was in therapy or getting a massage (how can anyone do self-care without massage?!). I did a lot of journalling, and I’m so relieved I did because it’s incredible to look back and see how things were changing inside me.

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This space is sacred because it allows you to connect so easily. It’s a self-care emporium and it’s full of magic. It feels safe, and inviting. You are surrounded by things that you love, and so your vibration is already elevated. In this space you have time, you are giving yourself permission to spend time on you, with you. I called on the angels, spirits, divine to join me in this room. My intuition was higher, I was ready to listen and I learned so much. It became a craving. I started watching a lot less TV, and spending time in any other room because I loved how I felt in this space.

It’s different now that I’ve returned to my parents (yeah… that happened), but I still have a space where I feel like I can escape (sort of). I have a comfy chair, blankets and pillows. My diffuser is out, and all my crystals. I have a bookshelf with my books and some pretty decorations I’ve found here and there; a dream catcher, a crystal lotus flower, a wooden OM. I also like to keep a picture of me as a child (I’m probably 3 or 4 years old) because I like to send my inner child love, and sometimes I’ll do Reiki on it. I bought a blue flower that hangs on the doorknob so people know when I’m enjoying my serenity, but sometimes this doesn’t stop them from knocking 🤦

If you are just starting a Spiritual Journey, or you started a long time ago and haven’t created space for yourself, OR if you are just in need of some self-care time – CREATE IT!

Here are some suggestions for your Sacred Space:

  • Colours that make you smile – paint your walls or buy a nice piece of fabric to hang
  • Candles
  • Pictures of people you love – including yourself!!
  • Relaxing music (I like soft guitar, Reiki or spa music from YouTube – some of the playlists last 8 hours!)
  • Motivational and Inspiring Quotes/Pictures
  • Comfy blankets and pillows
  • Crystals (YESSSS)
  • Essential oils or Incense
  • Journal and pens
  • Mood lighting (highly recommend purchasing a salt lamp)
  • Plants or flowers
  • Yoga mat, or meditation pillows
  • Spiritual literature
  • Statues (like a Buddha… or whatever floats your boat)
  • Dream Catcher
  • Oracle Cards (or any other kind of divination tool you might be in to… or not, whatever)
  • Something to cleanse the space (I use palo santo)

Just remember to keep it simple, and use your intuition to feel what to put in there, and where. Your soul knows what will soothe it, just trust it ❤✌

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