WTF is a Third Eye Chakra?!

Sixth blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired. Almost Done! Kind reminder time; it takes more than just reading these posts to balance your chakras. The real work is up to you, especially at this phase in the game. Do your research! The intention for this series is to give you a quick snapshot of each chakra so that you can start to pay more attention to your body and know what each chakra works with. Secondly, if you don’t know what I mean when I say “chakra” there is a “WTF is a Chakra” post at the beginning of this series. Read it first.

The Third Eye Chakra (brow chakra or Ajna) is located on the forehead directly in the centre of your eyebrows (or unibrow for some – no judgment). This chakra packs the punch. Not only is it my favourite colour – like a deep purple/blue but it’s the main point of entry for the universal life force energy. Meaning energy enters our body through our Third Eye and this chakra distributes the energy throughout our body. The Third Eye Chakra is known as the seat of intuition, wisdom and spiritual insight. It provides us with an entirely new way of seeing.

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So… Third Eye, in between your other eyes – sees beyond what the other two see – intuition – and I think you’ll just need to remember that its deep purple because I’m stumped for some clever way to remember that. Comment below if you’re more creative than me 😉

Our Third Eye Chakra brings us a whole new level of awareness when it’s balanced. Our thinking and our vision becomes more clear, and inevitably that allows us to focus on the bigger picture with ease. When it’s unbalanced it can leave us feeling unmotivated, depressed, anxiety ridden and fearful of the unknown. We will remain stuck in problem thinking and will feel a gigantic block in our intuition and our psychic abilities. Someone who hasn’t awoken their Third Eye Chakra will feel stuck in the daily grind of every day life (yuck). They might lack inspiration and clarity and be unable to establish any sort of vision for themselves or their lives. Monotonous everything.

Physically an imbalance can effect the brain, eyes, and pituitary glands. This can lead to migraines, seizures, sinusitis, poor vision, sciatica and problems regulating or getting to sleep.

Someone with a blocked Third Eye will likely reject all things spiritual. Or they may believe in God, but shut down everything else that may require a deeper connection and some imagination. The Third Eye Chakra allows us to see in to the spiritual realm. It is linked to psychic abilities like Clairvoyance and Clairaudience. When it’s in balance we are connected, we are wise, intuitive, and magical.

To awaken our Third Eye Chakra it is incredibly important to meditate as often as possible. There are hundreds of meditations on YouTube you can try. I started with guided visualizations and then moved to just music where I can do my own visualizations. I find these to be very powerful in developing your third eye. Pay attention to the ways in which it feels and looks different when you are using your third eye, as opposed to eye #1 and #2. For me, even the thoughts I have change. Don’t be discouraged when the things you witness with your third eye are hard to explain or describe to someone else. Use your intuition!! Really reign in on what your inner voice and your gut are telling you, and don’t question it or doubt yourself.

Another way to build your psychic powers and awaken your third eye is through divination tools. Use Oracle Cards or a Pendulum. Talk to Spirit, ask for help. Participate in a moon ritual – the Full Moon is a fantastic time to open this chakra.

Lapis Lazuli, Lavender Quartz, Purple Fluorite and Lepidolite are crystals that I like to use with the Third Eye Chakra. You can hold them (or even charge them) with these affirmations;

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WTF is a Throat Chakra?!

Fifth blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired.

The Throat Chakra (or Vishuddha) is located right where you might guess. In the hollow of the throat (points for being a genius 🤓). In honour of keeping it simple, the Throat Chakra deals with our ability to communicate. It’s our hub of expression; self expression, expression of emotions, creative expression and non verbal expression. The colour associated with this chakra is Blue. I just pulled the phone-a-friend card and asked how to make it easy to remember that the Throat Chakra is blue – water she said! You gotta drink water, lube your throat to communicate – totally makes sense.
So here it is; Throat = communication = water = blue.

A balanced Throat Chakra helps you to know what you want in life, and express yourself confidently and responsibly. You’re able to reflect and explore with courage and honesty, and share your authentic self with the rest of the world. You won’t be afraid to ask for what you want because you’ll do it with integrity and respect.

When your Throat Chakra is off balance you will have trouble expressing yourself. This may look like a creative block, difficulty speaking your truth, social anxiety or excessive fear of speaking in front of a crowd. If there’s a block in this chakra you could be wondering why you just can’t stop lying. You can become very critical of others, verbally aggressive and gossipy. People with an imbalance in this chakra tend to be loud and are often yelling. They have a tendency of interrupting people and are intolerant of others’ opinions.

Physically the Throat Chakra has an impact on your neck, shoulders, ears, mouth, jaw, and thyroid. This could potentially look like chronic sore throats or bronchitis, mouth ulcers or cold sores, thyroid problems, neck pain and headaches.

The Throat Chakra serves as a mediator between our emotions (heart) and our mind (thoughts). When there is an imbalance we can become distrustful of our inner voice, and disconnected spiritually. This builds upon the disconnect you already feel because an unbalanced Throat Chakra already prevents you from realizing your truth, and purpose. It is very important to keep this chakra balanced if you want to move forward spiritually.

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Sodalite and Aquamarine are my favourite crystals associated with the Throat Chakra. I actually have a Sodalite wand that I use to direct the energy in or away from my throat. When we are trying to grow spiritually it is incredibly important that we learn to speak our truth and feel safe doing so.

A couple of ways I have used to balance this chakra are;

  1. Journaling – be as raw and vulnerable as you can be. If you can’t be honest in your own journal then you’ve got a problem.
  2. Find someone you trust and tell them your deepest secret. The one that always sits at the peak of your mind and plays like a movie on repeat. Get it out.
  3. Wear blue, and decorate a room with some blue accents. Both my bathroom and my bedroom have shades of blue. Its not a sad colour, it’s calming and supportive especially a dark blue.
  4. Reassure your friends and family when they are speaking. Let them know that what they are saying is important, and honest. Eventually you will start saying it to yourself.

Grab that trusty mirror again and repeat the affirmations below…

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WTF is a Heart Chakra?!

Fourth blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired.

The Heart Chakra (Anahata) is located in the centre of your chest (shouldn’t be hard to figure out why 🤔). The Heart Chakra encompasses our capacity to accept and feel unconditional love, compassion and joy. The colour associated is Green. This chakra falls right in the middle of our 7 main chakras and represents the space where the physical and spiritual worlds meet. It reminds us that beneath all of our basic, human problems there is a purity within us. Spiritual love so deep that it takes on the colour of nature to show us how connected we are.
Heart = love = green like nature (deep spiritual love).

When our Heart Chakra is off balance we will feel unworthy of love. We won’t be able to accept love fully, and we will lack the ability to trust others, and ourselves. You know those walls that we build once we get hurt? We think we’re protecting ourselves by adopting these defense mechanisms that push people away and keep our hearts safe – those walls are deeply connected to this chakra. When they’re up, you are literally closing this chakra and the wheel isn’t moving any energy. This makes us closed off, defensive, antisocial, heartless little meanies. We hold grudges easily, are unkind, irritable, bossy and overly critical with others.

When in balance this chakra is respectful and encouraging. It allows people (including ourselves) to be who they really are, and loves them for it. We are quick to forgive because we empathize and are ruled by understanding and compassion.

Physically our heart (duh), our chest, arms, hands and ribs can be impacted by an imbalance in the Heart Chakra. This can show in heart problems, difficulty breathing, hypertension, poor circulation etc…

You know when you are sitting across from someone and they smile at you, and you feel this warmth in your chest and little chills down your arms? That’s your Heart Chakra saying there’s a pretty solid chance you love them.
As the middle chakra, and the centre of love, awareness, compassion and empathy, spirituality runs strongly throughout this one. When our Heart Chakra is open we have faith that we are all connected. We know that we are born from and to be divine love. We have the ability to grieve and reach peace through spiritual understanding.

Whenever you feel that this chakra needs some balance, shift your attitude. Chances are you’re feeling cynical, judgmental, hurt, or upset and that’s okay. Sometimes it’s important to feel those things and allow them to process through, and once you’re ready to balance out again think Gratitude. Remind yourself of all the beautiful people, places and things that you have in your life and express your thanks for them.

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Meditation is a very strong remedy for an imbalance in this chakra as it connects your physical body and mind to the spiritual worlds. And music, but not the angry, head banging shit. Unless that’s how you want to feel, that’s totally up to you.

I’m only going to recommend one crystal here because I swear by it when it comes to the Heart Chakra. Rose Quartz. Rose Quartz everything! Necklace, bracelet, tumble stone in your bra, scentsy cubes, display crystals. It doesn’t matter, just Rose Quartz it up however you can. It helps dissolve emotional wounds, and makes you feel safe to lower those walls again. It prevents and destroys fears and resentments. It helps you to attract love, romance and intimacy, and even helps you keep it 😉 . It opens up your Heart Chakra to allow you to love openly and freely. What else is there that really matters in this world?!

So… Are you choosing Love or Fear today? ✌️❤️

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WTF is a Solar Plexus Chakra?!

Third blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired. We’re just working our way up here! Kind reminder time; it takes more than just reading these posts to balance your chakras. The real work is in your hands. Do your research. The intention for this series is to give you a quick snapshot of each chakra so that you can start to pay more attention to your body and know what each chakra works with. Secondly, if you don’t know what I mean when I say “chakra” there is a “WTF is a Chakra” post at the beginning of this series. Read it.

The Solar Plexus Chakra (or Manipura) is located just above our belly button at the bottom of our rib cage. This is our “don’t be a doormat” chakra. It’s about knowing your worth. It’s our centre for personal willpower and self-esteem. The Solar Plexus Chakra controls the energy that can muster up the courage not only deal with, but master the emotions that arise in the Sacral Chakra, overcome any fear associated with them and set forth taking confident action. The colour associated with our SP is yellow.

Solar = Sun = Yellow = Warm, Vibrant, Confident 👌

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When our Solar Plexus is off balance we feel ignored, under valued, unappreciated, and rejected. It’s no wonder this was the first chakra I was drawn to on my journey. I was looking for value external to me. I was allowing other people/situations to decide how I felt, what I did, what made me happy. I was inactive in my own life, passive and indecisive. When this chakra is out of whack we might see ourselves as victims. We will put up with poor treatment and have low standards because we may think this is what we are deserving of. News Flash = that’s a lie; you deserve every ounce of beauty this world has to offer!!!

Physically an imbalance in the SP will impact our liver, gallbladder (mine was removed for a reason lol) and our digestive system. We might suffer from gas, nausea, diabetes, ulcers etc… A balanced SP will help you be proactive in terms of assessment and treatment of illness because it allows you to meet challenges with confidence, rather than being fearful and inactive.

The enemy of the SP is the ego (😰ugh). And unfortunately as we increase our awareness, and we start to grow spiritually or otherwise, our ego fights back. Hard. It makes us question everything. We might feel really good and confident one moment, and then one person looks at us the wrong way, we feel judged, our self esteem disappears and our ego starts to party, filling us with nasty messages about how we aren’t worthy, we aren’t enough…

To enable the Solar Plexus Chakra to function optimally, we need to be able to decipher ego from intuition. We need to believe in ourselves and trust the universe. We need to do some hard work with our self esteem and self worth. Do you know the difference?

I’m going to challenge you today, it’s like truth and dare but you have to do both.

Truth: What is an exciting and challenging goal you want to achieve? Write it down. Write down some small steps you can take to reach it. Monitor your progress and celebrate when you have achieved something. Pat yourself on the back, and buy yourself some flowers.

Dare: Smile! Get out in the sun, stretch your body, do a little dance. Step out of your comfort zone, do something nice for someone and don’t tell anyone you did it.

And one last thing… Put on an outfit that makes you feel beautiful (because you are!!). It doesn’t even matter if it’s your flannel onesie. I won’t judge! Stand in front of the mirror holding one (or all) of these crystals; yellow jasper, citrine, amber or tiger’s eye, and repeat these affirmations;

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WTF is a Sacral Chakra?!

Second blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired.

The Sacral Chakra (or Svadhistana) is my fave, and certainly the one I’ve done the most work with. It is located in your ponch (don’t be embarrassed, we all have one) in between your belly button and your privates. This chakra represents the hub of our emotions, and our sexual energy centre. It’s our emotional and creative responses to the core issues from the Root Chakra. The colour associated with this chakra is orange.

Hmmmm… An easy way to remember this one? Sacral… sacred (sex) and orange is spicy and fiery like our emotions, and like some sex 😋

When our Sacral Chakra is out of balance we will struggle with intimate relationships, (with others and with ourselves) and I don’t just mean sexually, though that is definitely a part of it. We will be codependent, needy and whiny little twits. We will seek pleasure in unhealthy ways. We will struggle with addiction, jealousy and rage. We will either hide our feelings completely or we will use them to manipulate and control other people.

Physically our reproductive organs, kidney, bladder and lower back will be impacted. We might experience infertility, testicular diseases, cramping (ugh) etc… I was diagnosed with Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) and I can guarantee this was my Sacral Chakra screaming at me to pay attention because it was shutting down.

This one was a big one for me spiritually. The Sacral Chakra is connected to the Divine Feminine in all of us. It is associated with the moon, and goddess energies. Only once I was able to fully embrace this chakra was I able to discover my authentic self, love myself freely and unapologetically, and speak my truth without shame and judgment.

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You know what? This one was a big one for me just in general. If you’ve read any of my previous blogs, or my “about me” section, you know I’ve suffered from severe burnout. Most of us have, in one way or another. For those of us who are empaths, I cannot even stress how important it is to pay attention to this chakra.

If you have experienced any imbalance in relationships. If you’ve ever felt guilty for shining too bright. If you’ve ever felt insecure about sharing how you feel. If you’ve ever been a girl – been told not to eat too much, spend too much, talk too much, cry too much, or have too much sex. If you’ve ever been ashamed about enjoying sex with a partner, or multiple partners… Focus on this chakra!

Pull some orange into your wardrobe. Buy an orange blanket and cuddle up to it. Meditate with Citrine, Carnelian or Moonstone. Practice mindfulness – jackpot!! Be mindful of your thoughts and intentions and watch how these impact your emotions. Be aware of these emotions and how they feel in your body. If it feels good, then enjoy it! Find a solid balance between discipline and passion. It is vital that we find joy in this life!!

Explore yourself inside and out, and fall in love with everything you find ❤️✌️

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WTF is a Root Chakra?!

First blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired. If you don’t know what a chakra is please go back and read the first one.

The Root (or base or Muladhara) Chakra is located at the base of your spine. It might be confusing to some of you that were starting in the middle of your body as opposed to the top of your head or your feet, but that’s just how it is. Think Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. The base of the triangle is the basic necessities of being a human; food, shelter, safety and security. This is the stuff that the Root Chakra deals with. The colour associated with it is Red. Red is primitive, it is strength, it is survival.
Root. Base (base of spine). Basic needs. Red. Survival. Ya following so far? Awesome!

When our Root Chakra is out of balance we are ruled by fear and anxiety. We have a strong sense that something is unsafe. We are worried about our job, our relationships, our bills. We don’t feel grounded, some might even call us “flighty” or forgetful.

Physically, our lower body is affected by an imbalance with our Root Chakra (again this just means that the wheel isn’t turning perfectly to allow free flow of energy). This could show in our feet, legs, bones, bowels, private parts etc…

Spiritually, a Root Chakra imbalance may demonstrate an insecure sense of belief, or no belief system at all. You may believe that the world is out to get you. Or you may just be trying to figure out exactly what you do believe in.

If any of this resonates, take a moment to ground yourself now. Put on something red. Stand up tall, feet planted on the ground. Visualize your body transforming in to a tree. <<Be The Tree>> See the roots shoot from the bottom of your feet deep, deep down in to the earth. Roots so strong they are impossible to break. Breathe deeply in to this feeling of stability and strength. Know that everything will be okay. You will make it work.

For most of us an imbalance in our Root Chakra will occur at a very young age, so young we might forget how it even got there. Because the Root Chakra deals with your sense of security and safety, if something happened when you were a child to make you question these things, this is likely where you are still carrying it. Tiny impressions will create little blockages, each time an impression is triggered it gets bigger and bigger, and bigger and creates blockages so strong that it can shut down the entire chakra.

Core issues associated with the Root Chakra are often very deep rooted (😋) fears. Fear of abandonment for example, is a big one here, and that sucker can be triggered in so many different areas of our lives. You might find it beneficial to have a conversation (or 10) with a therapist. This chakra lays the groundwork for our lives. So don’t f*ck around. If you don’t feel safe to grow, to love, to be, then what are you honestly going to achieve?

Now, go grab yourself some Red Garnet, Black Tourmaline and maybe even some Hematite. Look in to a mirror and say the following affirmations;

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WTF is a Chakra?!

Chakras. Energy. Universal Life Force. WTF?

Here’s your simple guide to chakras and how understanding these golden nuggets can help you heal your life. Trust me, it will change everything.

Before we even touch on the chakras we need to get a basic understanding of Energy. Remember Grade 10 Science? Nah, me either. Well basically it tells us that the entire universe is energy. The chair you’re sitting on, the tree outside your window, the clip in your hair, the clouds, that annoying dog that keeps barking… And You.

Energy = life force = universal matter = prana (that’s yoga speak). Gazillions of neurons bouncing off each other. It’s teeny weeny and it’s everywhere. There is absolutely no escaping it.

Humans are made up of this universal life force and chakras are the energy centres (some say spiritual power centres) inside of us. Basically they regulate our energy. Picture little wheels (which is actually the Sanskrit translation of “chakra”) in different areas of your body. They spin and spin and distribute the energy. There are 100+ chakras in our bodies, but we are simple humans so we focus mainly on 7. We start at the base of our spine and work the way up to the top of our heads.

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So the wheels turn in each of these 7 areas and distribute the energy throughout our bodies. Sometimes these wheels (the chakras) get blocked, spin too quickly or too slowly, or shut down completely. These have spiritual, emotional and physical impacts on us. When our chakras are balanced and the energy is free to move throughout our bodies we live a healthy and harmonious life. Rainbows and butterflies basically.

Don’t get too excited, no one can live on cloud 9 for long. Every day, several times a day, 1 or 7 of our chakras will become off balance. We carry too much crap for it to be any other way. The important thing is that we pay attention.

How Can Understanding Chakras Help Us Heal?

Anytime that we have a better understanding of what’s going on inside our bodies we have a greater chance of healing. Take a moment right now and focus your attention to your body. Close your eyes and feel the energy coursing through you. In which areas does the energy feel heavier? Blocked? Flowing freely? If the energy feels tight between your rib cage then you likely have some work to do with your Solar Plexus Chakra. Think about what’s been going on in your life. Is there something threatening your sense of belonging? Your personal identity? Have you been feeling less confident lately? Are you having issues digesting your meals?

Once you can understand chakras in general and then each chakra separately you can figure out exactly what needs to be addressed to bring yourself back to alignment and ultimately work towards healing. Working with your chakras can also be a preventative measure to avoid illness.

If you are curious, and just too darn lazy to try to figure it out yourself, have a practitioner do a Chakra Assessment and Balancing Technique for you.

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I really enjoy getting a Reiki session, or doing it on myself to figure out where I’m off balance. When I first started understanding the chakras, I couldn’t get out of the house fast enough to join a course. I learned a Chakra Assessment and Balancing Technique and took Level 1 and 2 Reiki within one month. My body detoxed rather quickly and cleared old blockages so that the energy could move more freely.

But the real work is in addressing the core issues that are troubling us and throwing our chakras out of whack all the time. No matter how much we detox, if those core issues are still present we will always be dealing with stuck energy.

In my next few blogs ill go chakra by chakra and discuss what these issues are (spiritually, emotionally and physically) and how we can help to bring them back in to balance ✌️❤️

 

8 Best Crystals for Healing and How to Use Them Every Day

One of the first things I started working with were crystals. Crystals for healing are incredibly useful. But how do crystals heal? Not only are they beautiful but they have such high vibrational properties that the moment you are aligned with them your own vibration starts to rise. Different crystals have different healing properties and the descriptions can be extensive. Luckily we don’t have to memorize everything we read about crystals. Often times it’s the one you are most drawn to that you need that day, or it can also be the one you are least drawn to and resisting. As with everything else in the realm of spirituality, let your intuition be your guide. Tune in to your body, your feelings, and just pick one or two or five. You literally can’t go wrong.

1. Citrine

Citrine is a great crystal for healing because of its self-expression properties. Citrine helps with self-esteem and self-image, it helps to assert personal will and facilitates new beginnings. Citrine is associated with the solar plexus chakra which encapsulates our relationship with ourself.

2. Amethyst

Amethyst is a wonderful crystal for healing symptoms of stress and anxiety. It is a calming stone, and it helps with insomnia and warding off nightmares. Amethyst comes from the Greek word amethystos which means “not drunken” and has been known to support those dealing with addictions. It is associated with the crown chakra which is a direct reflection of your spiritual connection.

3. Sodalite

Sodalite is a very effective crystal for those who experience mood swings. Its vibration helps to balance out emotions and instill a sense of calm. Sodalite also activates the throat chakra, making it easier to communicate effectively and speak your personal truth. Sodalite helps you to connect with your intuition making you more aware of what your body/mind/spirit needs in this moment to heal itself.

4. Aquamarine

Aquamarine is an important crystal for anyone who experiences anxiety or fear. It is calming, soothing and promoted courage. Aquamarine helps us to heal by aligning and balancing each of our chakras. Aquamarine supports manifestation and protection.

5. Rose Quartz

Everyone knows Rose Quartz for its loving healing properties. It is the crystal of unconditional love, compassion and kindness. It promotes emotional healing, especially after a break up or a death of a loved one. Rose Quartz helps you to give and receive the love that you are so deserving of. It also brings a sense of calm, peace, and joy to your life.

6. Pyrite

Pyrite is a great protection crystal, meaning that it will block negative energy from entering your aura. It is grounding, and offers support around manifestation and inspiration. Pyrite will enhance your will so that it’s easier to make it through troubling times in our lives. It promotes good physical health. Pyrite is a good crystal to use if you need the motivation and follow through to accomplish health related goals.

7. Lepidolite

Lepidolite is known as the “stone of transition”. It helps to induce change from old behavioural patterns or attitudes that are no longer serving your higher purpose. Lepidolite brings deep emotional healing, so it supports with symptoms of stress and depression. It can also be used to support recovery from illness, such as addiction. It brings independence, trust and self-love.

8. Turquoise

Last, but certainly not least is Turquoise, aka the “master healer”. Turquoise can be used to balance and realign any chakra. For centuries it has been known as the crystal that connects heaven and earth. It has an incredibly high vibration of love and offers a calm and soothing experience to any one who uses it.

How to use crystals on a daily basis…

I have a beautiful display of crystals on my altar, and at first that’s where they stayed. I had no idea how to actually use them for anything, I just knew I wanted them, and I felt really good when I was around them. Here’s a few ways I have learned to use them on a daily basis;

  • Prescriptions: Google it! There are prescriptions for self confidence, for overcoming fear, for attracting abundance, for love. Literally for everything you can think of. I used one once for a tummy ache and after 3 days of upset stomach I was relieved… for a few hours. But those few hours were heavenly!
  • Meditations: Crystals will enhance meditations ten fold. Sit with a crystal that it is connected to the crown chakra on your lap, or in front of you while you meditate. The vibration from the crystal will support the opening of your crown and facilitate the connection of higher self.
  • Manifesting: stones like Aquamarine who are linked to manifestation can be held when you are speaking affirmations to help with manifesting them into reality. If you hold a Turquoise and say “I am healed” you better expect some serious healing energy coming your way!
  • Put a crystal in your pocket to help bring you whatever kind of energy you need throughout the day.
  • Lay down or sit for a few minutes – kick your feet up, you deserve it! And place a crystal (or 7) on the corresponding chakra to help the energy flow. Visualize the crystal sending rays of coloured energy in through your chakra. This will help to balance and align that chakra.
  • Place them strategically around your house. Amethyst on your bedside table or under a pillow, or Citrine in the financial corner to attract prosperity (the furthest corner to the left from your front door).

So next time you are debating whether or not you need to get that crystal, don’t pick the one you think is prettiest. Pick the one you are being pulled towards, or if you’re brave the one you are totally repelled by. You will be surprised the difference it makes when you are working with a crystal that is totally meant for you.

Another fun idea is to bring a child with you shopping. Ask them to pick the best crystal for healing, specifically for you. Children are incredibly intuitive and will often pick the exact one you need. And remember you cannot make a mistake here, the only thing holding you back is you ❤✌

Process Those Emotions Through Your Heart

I surprised myself after the break up. I hadn’t really cried. I was sad, and I was mad. But I dealt with these things as I normally do, I let them go, brushed them off. I let them go because I refused to let them impact my spiritual progress (little did I know that was doing the opposite). I wondered if this was normal. If it was too simple. If it was even addressing the issue. I asked my therapist if I was dealing with things properly…

This question turned in to a long conversation about processing emotions. And even after I went home I opened up my Instagram and it seemed that every other post on my feed was speaking to me about this. Go figure we’re all human.

Here’s five general points that sat well with me, and still do…

1) Throughout our lives we create blockages in our bodies with the energy from feelings that have not been processed. These turn in to impressions (beliefs about ourselves or others) which can get stimulated by events, people, “triggers” essentially, and end up creating fears, negative feelings of self doubt etc…

2) When we encounter a new event that causes emotions to arise, and we need to keep our heart open, so not to create another blockage (because no one wants a blockage!). We have to allow the emotion to work it’s way through our bodies, and channel directly through our heart centres (be it sadness, anger, disappointment, worry etc…).

3) It can be a painful process, frankly it hurts like hell and feels like you’re going to drown in a puddle of tears, and it is necessary. How many times have you “dealt” with your feelings around something just to see the same thing pop up again and again and again? The more we try to suppress our feelings, distract ourselves by saying we’ll deal with it another day, the harder it gets to actually process it effectively. And when it already hurts like hell you don’t want to make it any worse.

4) There is a huge difference between allowing emotions or feelings to channel through your heart, and sitting in your shit. I tell myself it is completely healthy and okay to sit in “victim-mode” and grieve for a certain amount of time – be it an hour, or a day depending on the level of emotion I’m feeling – and then that’s it. I release it. I refuse to let that emotion or thought bog me down any longer. I refuse to become it. I refuse to become the thoughts that arise from the emotion. That’s just plain toxic.

5) Processed or – even better- released emotions can become powerful motivators for positive change. Instead of being stuck in a never ending cycle of bullshit, process your emotions, allow them to channel through you. With this experience of purification, and releasing of blockages you open yourself up to the universal flow of energy. This is when the healing takes place. When we allow the energy to travel to our heart, our soul is there to meet it, and our soul holds the answers.

So how do you do this? I sat in my basement apartment, locked the door, grabbed a tea and I started writing. I sat with myself for hours, and I wrote and cried, and wrote mean things (which I later burnt) and cried, and wrote all of the feelings I was ashamed to admit and cried some more. I called my mom and was grateful that she created space for me to continue crying, to vent, and then to be comforted. I asked her to tell me everything would be okay. I knew in my heart that it would be (that’s the key to not sitting in your shit) but I needed her to say it.

Essentially I gave myself permission to feel. To REALLY FEEL.

****There may be some of you reading this that don’t feel safe allowing yourself to fully feel, and please know that’s ok. Maybe its not time yet, or maybe you can talk to someone about how to create a safe space for you to do this.

It’s important to find a way that works specifically for you. It will look different for everyone. Maybe you need to listen to sappy love songs, or loud screamer songs. Maybe you need to go to a rage room, or just call a close friend that allows you to vent fully without judgment. Maybe you need to do some painting, or go sit near the lake. Whatever it looks like, when the tears start flowin, DON’T STOP THEM! Allow them – give yourself permission to feel them. Pay attention to how the energy feels making it’s way through your body, and in to your heart. Once it’s in your heart your soul will know when it’s ready to be released ❤✌