Authenticity: 10 Steps to Shattering Your “Perfect” Little Box

You know that perfect little box you’ve been squeezing in to? What if I told you that people would still love you (and you might even learn to love yourself) if you just took a hammer to it?

Don’t deny it, we’ve all been there. You pretend your life is different than it actually is. You post pictures on Facebook of you and your partner oogley eyeing eachother when in reality you just spent your New Years dinner discussing whether or not you should break up, and the next day she moves out (that’s too descriptive to not be personal haha). You take selfies of your face because you’re uncomfortable with your belly. You put dinner with the girls on your Visa (with the last $30 available) because you’re afraid to say you can’t afford to go out.

Guess what? You aren’t perfect! And that is not only acceptable, it is beautiful. Authenticity is so refreshing.

I urge you to please step up, step out. Stop squeezing. You aren’t fooling the people who actually matter. Those who pull away from you are afraid that you will expose their box (it’s not even about you). Let them fall away. Those who stay, love you for exactly who you are. They are the only ones who matter. You truly matter!

So….

SMASH THE BOX!

SMASH IT! It’s preventing you from falling in love with who you actually are, and living your life to your fullest and highest potential!

10 Steps to Break Free and Shatter Your Box

1. Acknowledge and Analyze it. Stop. Lying. To. Yourself!!!! Notice your box. How large is it? How/When do you use it? How does it benefit you right now? How does it make you feel?

2. Pick up the Hammer. Are you ready? What’s holding you back? Be honest with yourself. This is the start to smashing it. Be ready.

3. SMASH IT! Literally take the hammer and smash that shit. Call someone, admit a lie. The nagging lie would be a good place to start, as long as it won’t hurt anyone. This is about you. You created this box. No one else.

4. Dont be Fake Anymore. It’s exhaaaausting. Seriously, so much of your time will free up.

5. Let the Other Boxes Fall Away. Find the people who appreciate you and know your worth, make room for them. Popularity is incredibly overrated. Everyone knows 3 great friends is far more fulfilling than 30 fake friends.

6. Be Kind, Reliable and Trustworthy. Talk the talk and walk the walk. Act with good intentions. When you say no, mean it. When you say yes, mean it.

7. Be Open to Possibilities. Have faith. Think critically and objectively. Keep an open mind and question yourself – your motives, fears…

8. Be True to Yourself. What are your virtues? Morals? Values? Own your imperfections. Self awareness is so empowering. Learn about you. What gives you goosebumps? What makes you tick? Integrity is key.

9. Be Bold. Wear the polka dots when everyone else chooses black. Be honest, have courage, be brave. And at the end of the day own it all!!!

10. Love Yourself No Matter What. Love your quirks, your imperfections. Nurture yourself if you make a mistake. You are human afterall. Be grateful for your gifts. Be as authentic as you possibly can, and love this about yourself. Don’t change for anyone. When you are so comfortable within yourself you inspire others to do the same.

Authenticity. It’s a virtue. Do you believe this? Where will you let it take you? ❤✌

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10 Ways to Know You’re Aligned With Your Purpose(s) 😉❤

For most of us talking about our life’s purpose feels so daunting. How can I, a simple small town girl have some incredible “life purpose”?! It sounds so intense, and responsible. What if I fail? I don’t want to have that kind of weight on my shoulders!

But what if we change our perspective a little… What if we (as individuals) don’t have this one distinct, life changing purpose in our lives? Instead our lives are built upon situations, choices, relationships that within each and every one of them has a life purpose. What if the world is littered with gazillions of smaller purposes? Each one of them as meaningful as the last. If you think about it every relationship we have serves a purpose, every job, maybe even every conversation. The relationships for example, even the worst ones have taught us something, and that was their purpose!

Even if we choose something that is not directly aligned with the universe, there is still a purpose there. There is a purpose in everything. So relax. There is no pressure here. You may just be re-routed a few times, and you may feel off balance when you aren’t aligned.

The only thing that we’re asked to do is recognize and challenge ourselves to understand these purposes, and take the lessons that we need from each of them, so that we don’t need to keep repeating the same patterns over and over. When we do this we start to live a life that is aligned with the universe. We start to live authentically. This is where we find success, happiness, joy and love. Ultimately, this is the highest life purpose for each of us.

So how can we know that we are following our purpose? That we are working towards aligning our lives? Simple, our intuition. Intuition ALWAYS tells us what is best, not only for us, but for humanity as a whole. Here are 10 signs that will confirm you are aligned with your intuition;

  1. You follow things that feel light and bright
  2. You get gut feelings, or feelings in your chest that are an inner knowing, and that never need an explanation
  3. Your chest and shoulders feel open and airy (rather than tight and constricted)
  4. Situations in your life continue to happen, until you finally make another choice
  5. Little signs keep showing you big things
  6. You feel inspired, excited about life
  7. The clock keeps showing you the same numbers; 11:11, 4:44, 5:55 etc…
  8. You daydream things (or have dreams at night) that are actually coming true
  9. You think about someone and then they call or text a minute later (Careful with this one, it could also be a test which inspires your lesson and your purpose)
  10. The word “intuition” brings a lightness to your soul ❤✌

WTF is a Third Eye Chakra?!

Sixth blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired. Almost Done! Kind reminder time; it takes more than just reading these posts to balance your chakras. The real work is up to you, especially at this phase in the game. Do your research! The intention for this series is to give you a quick snapshot of each chakra so that you can start to pay more attention to your body and know what each chakra works with. Secondly, if you don’t know what I mean when I say “chakra” there is a “WTF is a Chakra” post at the beginning of this series. Read it first.

The Third Eye Chakra (brow chakra or Ajna) is located on the forehead directly in the centre of your eyebrows (or unibrow for some – no judgment). This chakra packs the punch. Not only is it my favourite colour – like a deep purple/blue but it’s the main point of entry for the universal life force energy. Meaning energy enters our body through our Third Eye and this chakra distributes the energy throughout our body. The Third Eye Chakra is known as the seat of intuition, wisdom and spiritual insight. It provides us with an entirely new way of seeing.

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So… Third Eye, in between your other eyes – sees beyond what the other two see – intuition – and I think you’ll just need to remember that its deep purple because I’m stumped for some clever way to remember that. Comment below if you’re more creative than me 😉

Our Third Eye Chakra brings us a whole new level of awareness when it’s balanced. Our thinking and our vision becomes more clear, and inevitably that allows us to focus on the bigger picture with ease. When it’s unbalanced it can leave us feeling unmotivated, depressed, anxiety ridden and fearful of the unknown. We will remain stuck in problem thinking and will feel a gigantic block in our intuition and our psychic abilities. Someone who hasn’t awoken their Third Eye Chakra will feel stuck in the daily grind of every day life (yuck). They might lack inspiration and clarity and be unable to establish any sort of vision for themselves or their lives. Monotonous everything.

Physically an imbalance can effect the brain, eyes, and pituitary glands. This can lead to migraines, seizures, sinusitis, poor vision, sciatica and problems regulating or getting to sleep.

Someone with a blocked Third Eye will likely reject all things spiritual. Or they may believe in God, but shut down everything else that may require a deeper connection and some imagination. The Third Eye Chakra allows us to see in to the spiritual realm. It is linked to psychic abilities like Clairvoyance and Clairaudience. When it’s in balance we are connected, we are wise, intuitive, and magical.

To awaken our Third Eye Chakra it is incredibly important to meditate as often as possible. There are hundreds of meditations on YouTube you can try. I started with guided visualizations and then moved to just music where I can do my own visualizations. I find these to be very powerful in developing your third eye. Pay attention to the ways in which it feels and looks different when you are using your third eye, as opposed to eye #1 and #2. For me, even the thoughts I have change. Don’t be discouraged when the things you witness with your third eye are hard to explain or describe to someone else. Use your intuition!! Really reign in on what your inner voice and your gut are telling you, and don’t question it or doubt yourself.

Another way to build your psychic powers and awaken your third eye is through divination tools. Use Oracle Cards or a Pendulum. Talk to Spirit, ask for help. Participate in a moon ritual – the Full Moon is a fantastic time to open this chakra.

Lapis Lazuli, Lavender Quartz, Purple Fluorite and Lepidolite are crystals that I like to use with the Third Eye Chakra. You can hold them (or even charge them) with these affirmations;

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WTF is a Throat Chakra?!

Fifth blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired.

The Throat Chakra (or Vishuddha) is located right where you might guess. In the hollow of the throat (points for being a genius 🤓). In honour of keeping it simple, the Throat Chakra deals with our ability to communicate. It’s our hub of expression; self expression, expression of emotions, creative expression and non verbal expression. The colour associated with this chakra is Blue. I just pulled the phone-a-friend card and asked how to make it easy to remember that the Throat Chakra is blue – water she said! You gotta drink water, lube your throat to communicate – totally makes sense.
So here it is; Throat = communication = water = blue.

A balanced Throat Chakra helps you to know what you want in life, and express yourself confidently and responsibly. You’re able to reflect and explore with courage and honesty, and share your authentic self with the rest of the world. You won’t be afraid to ask for what you want because you’ll do it with integrity and respect.

When your Throat Chakra is off balance you will have trouble expressing yourself. This may look like a creative block, difficulty speaking your truth, social anxiety or excessive fear of speaking in front of a crowd. If there’s a block in this chakra you could be wondering why you just can’t stop lying. You can become very critical of others, verbally aggressive and gossipy. People with an imbalance in this chakra tend to be loud and are often yelling. They have a tendency of interrupting people and are intolerant of others’ opinions.

Physically the Throat Chakra has an impact on your neck, shoulders, ears, mouth, jaw, and thyroid. This could potentially look like chronic sore throats or bronchitis, mouth ulcers or cold sores, thyroid problems, neck pain and headaches.

The Throat Chakra serves as a mediator between our emotions (heart) and our mind (thoughts). When there is an imbalance we can become distrustful of our inner voice, and disconnected spiritually. This builds upon the disconnect you already feel because an unbalanced Throat Chakra already prevents you from realizing your truth, and purpose. It is very important to keep this chakra balanced if you want to move forward spiritually.

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Sodalite and Aquamarine are my favourite crystals associated with the Throat Chakra. I actually have a Sodalite wand that I use to direct the energy in or away from my throat. When we are trying to grow spiritually it is incredibly important that we learn to speak our truth and feel safe doing so.

A couple of ways I have used to balance this chakra are;

  1. Journaling – be as raw and vulnerable as you can be. If you can’t be honest in your own journal then you’ve got a problem.
  2. Find someone you trust and tell them your deepest secret. The one that always sits at the peak of your mind and plays like a movie on repeat. Get it out.
  3. Wear blue, and decorate a room with some blue accents. Both my bathroom and my bedroom have shades of blue. Its not a sad colour, it’s calming and supportive especially a dark blue.
  4. Reassure your friends and family when they are speaking. Let them know that what they are saying is important, and honest. Eventually you will start saying it to yourself.

Grab that trusty mirror again and repeat the affirmations below…

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WTF is a Solar Plexus Chakra?!

Third blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired. We’re just working our way up here! Kind reminder time; it takes more than just reading these posts to balance your chakras. The real work is in your hands. Do your research. The intention for this series is to give you a quick snapshot of each chakra so that you can start to pay more attention to your body and know what each chakra works with. Secondly, if you don’t know what I mean when I say “chakra” there is a “WTF is a Chakra” post at the beginning of this series. Read it.

The Solar Plexus Chakra (or Manipura) is located just above our belly button at the bottom of our rib cage. This is our “don’t be a doormat” chakra. It’s about knowing your worth. It’s our centre for personal willpower and self-esteem. The Solar Plexus Chakra controls the energy that can muster up the courage not only deal with, but master the emotions that arise in the Sacral Chakra, overcome any fear associated with them and set forth taking confident action. The colour associated with our SP is yellow.

Solar = Sun = Yellow = Warm, Vibrant, Confident 👌

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When our Solar Plexus is off balance we feel ignored, under valued, unappreciated, and rejected. It’s no wonder this was the first chakra I was drawn to on my journey. I was looking for value external to me. I was allowing other people/situations to decide how I felt, what I did, what made me happy. I was inactive in my own life, passive and indecisive. When this chakra is out of whack we might see ourselves as victims. We will put up with poor treatment and have low standards because we may think this is what we are deserving of. News Flash = that’s a lie; you deserve every ounce of beauty this world has to offer!!!

Physically an imbalance in the SP will impact our liver, gallbladder (mine was removed for a reason lol) and our digestive system. We might suffer from gas, nausea, diabetes, ulcers etc… A balanced SP will help you be proactive in terms of assessment and treatment of illness because it allows you to meet challenges with confidence, rather than being fearful and inactive.

The enemy of the SP is the ego (😰ugh). And unfortunately as we increase our awareness, and we start to grow spiritually or otherwise, our ego fights back. Hard. It makes us question everything. We might feel really good and confident one moment, and then one person looks at us the wrong way, we feel judged, our self esteem disappears and our ego starts to party, filling us with nasty messages about how we aren’t worthy, we aren’t enough…

To enable the Solar Plexus Chakra to function optimally, we need to be able to decipher ego from intuition. We need to believe in ourselves and trust the universe. We need to do some hard work with our self esteem and self worth. Do you know the difference?

I’m going to challenge you today, it’s like truth and dare but you have to do both.

Truth: What is an exciting and challenging goal you want to achieve? Write it down. Write down some small steps you can take to reach it. Monitor your progress and celebrate when you have achieved something. Pat yourself on the back, and buy yourself some flowers.

Dare: Smile! Get out in the sun, stretch your body, do a little dance. Step out of your comfort zone, do something nice for someone and don’t tell anyone you did it.

And one last thing… Put on an outfit that makes you feel beautiful (because you are!!). It doesn’t even matter if it’s your flannel onesie. I won’t judge! Stand in front of the mirror holding one (or all) of these crystals; yellow jasper, citrine, amber or tiger’s eye, and repeat these affirmations;

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WTF is a Sacral Chakra?!

Second blog in this mini-series of WTF for the chakra-impaired.

The Sacral Chakra (or Svadhistana) is my fave, and certainly the one I’ve done the most work with. It is located in your ponch (don’t be embarrassed, we all have one) in between your belly button and your privates. This chakra represents the hub of our emotions, and our sexual energy centre. It’s our emotional and creative responses to the core issues from the Root Chakra. The colour associated with this chakra is orange.

Hmmmm… An easy way to remember this one? Sacral… sacred (sex) and orange is spicy and fiery like our emotions, and like some sex 😋

When our Sacral Chakra is out of balance we will struggle with intimate relationships, (with others and with ourselves) and I don’t just mean sexually, though that is definitely a part of it. We will be codependent, needy and whiny little twits. We will seek pleasure in unhealthy ways. We will struggle with addiction, jealousy and rage. We will either hide our feelings completely or we will use them to manipulate and control other people.

Physically our reproductive organs, kidney, bladder and lower back will be impacted. We might experience infertility, testicular diseases, cramping (ugh) etc… I was diagnosed with Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) and I can guarantee this was my Sacral Chakra screaming at me to pay attention because it was shutting down.

This one was a big one for me spiritually. The Sacral Chakra is connected to the Divine Feminine in all of us. It is associated with the moon, and goddess energies. Only once I was able to fully embrace this chakra was I able to discover my authentic self, love myself freely and unapologetically, and speak my truth without shame and judgment.

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You know what? This one was a big one for me just in general. If you’ve read any of my previous blogs, or my “about me” section, you know I’ve suffered from severe burnout. Most of us have, in one way or another. For those of us who are empaths, I cannot even stress how important it is to pay attention to this chakra.

If you have experienced any imbalance in relationships. If you’ve ever felt guilty for shining too bright. If you’ve ever felt insecure about sharing how you feel. If you’ve ever been a girl – been told not to eat too much, spend too much, talk too much, cry too much, or have too much sex. If you’ve ever been ashamed about enjoying sex with a partner, or multiple partners… Focus on this chakra!

Pull some orange into your wardrobe. Buy an orange blanket and cuddle up to it. Meditate with Citrine, Carnelian or Moonstone. Practice mindfulness – jackpot!! Be mindful of your thoughts and intentions and watch how these impact your emotions. Be aware of these emotions and how they feel in your body. If it feels good, then enjoy it! Find a solid balance between discipline and passion. It is vital that we find joy in this life!!

Explore yourself inside and out, and fall in love with everything you find ❤️✌️

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10 Things Turning 30 Has Taught Me

Birthdays – a time of year people celebrate with friends and family, receive gifts and get old. Also a time when we determine exactly what we should have achieved by our next birthday, and beat ourselves up for not having achieved what we set out to the year before. As my 31st birthday approaches I thought it would be appropriate to share with you some key tidbits from this past year – things turning 30 has taught me.

1. IT’S NOT WHAT IT’S CRACKED UP TO BE

First off, turning 30 was a really big deal to me. It felt like 30 was the age that everything is supposed to come together – your career, your school loans are paid off, you’re married, you own a house and have kids running around and if not at least you’re pregnant. For most of us that is certainly not the case, nor does it need to be!

2. 30 IS A DEADLY TRAP OF COMPARISONS

As 30 approached last year I was terrified because I had none of these things. I found myself in the deadly trap of comparison. I saw other happy couples out walking their dogs and people from high school running successful businesses and I wanted to hate them. But instead I turned that frustration inward and started judging and resenting myself.

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3. 30 IS A MARKETING COMPANY’S WET DREAM

Here is a a woman who has just turned 30. She put a lot of pressure on herself to achieve things society told her she should have before her ass starts to sag and she is no longer appealing. Now she’s a woman who resents herself so much that she is willing to do anything – pay anything just to feel better. Que the infomercials and magazine ads.

4. YOU AREN’T A FAILURE JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE NOT “THRIVING” AT 30

I felt like a total failure because the perfect 30 life wasn’t mine. And then I felt even worse when what I had achieved (a career, an apartment and a relationship that I thought would last forever) all fell away at the drop of a hat when I was 30 and a half. Society wants me to be ashamed of that. To be ashamed that I’m not living a white picket fenced kind of lifestyle. That I’m not financially stable or married. That my boobs seem lower then they were when I was 29. That I have crows feet and laugh lines. Oh and grey hair! But I am not ashamed! Not of anything! In fact I am so empowered!

5. 30 IS THE NEW 20

I am a woman going in to her 31st year without her ducks in a row. I don’t have my shit together and I’m not afraid to admit that. How can anyone expect us to go to school, get a decent job, pay off loans, buy a house and get married in this day and age? The housing market is a disaster. We have to go to school for 30 years just to get an entry level position (exaggeration but you get the point). The expectations are unrealistic.

6. INTERNAL WORK IS THE ONLY JOB THAT WILL EVER REALLY MATTER

We work our asses off trying to get this perfect 9-5 job, but right now I am doing the hardest work there is to do. I am digging deeper internally and more feverishly, more fearlessly than most people will ever do in their lifetimes. The external stuff means nothing to me. People might look at me right now and think I need to get my priorities straight (even my parents, so don’t worry I don’t judge that comment – you’re entitled to think what you want) and although I appreciate your concern, I honestly don’t give a shit. If you’re feeling brave enough I invite you to drop your resume and embrace this job!

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7. 30 IS THE TIME TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF FULLY

After living for 30 years you’ve likely gained some insight as to who you are, and what works or doesn’t work well with you. If you’re anything like me you’ve learned you’re garbage at setting boundaries and following your intuition. But 30 is the time to really get your ass in gear and start honouring this. You’re an adult. Stop wasting your time. Get to know yourself, and fully own everything about you.

8. BEING PROUD ISN’T A BAD THING

I am proud of the woman I am today, and the woman I am becoming. And I will not apologize for taking the time I need to work on myself internally. I am unapologetic in my pursuit of self discovery. And I wish the same for you too!

9. WE LIMIT OURSELVES UNINTENTIONALLY

As it turns out, turning 30 wasn’t a total waste of time. Once I stopped comparing myself to others and trying to conform to the “ideal”. Turning 30 completely changed my life. Open your mind to possibilities beyond what you’ve imagined your life to look like at 30. The Universe has something better planned. Open yourself to that now!

10. 31 IS EVEN BETTER

This year I am really looking forward to my birthday. I am so excited to turn 31. This is a new kind of a birthday for me. It represents the first birthday I’ve ever had as a woman in her power. As a woman embracing her age, her wisdom, her wildness, and her authenticity. I’m taking all of the lessons I’ve learned this year and jumping head first into the next.

Happy (almost) Birthday to Me! ✌️❤️😀

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Women’s Empowerment – The Future is Female 💖

Mother’s Day just passed so a Women’s Empowerment post seems appropriate. That seems so ridiculous tho – doesn’t it? Why the f*ck are we only posting about the badass women we know one day out of the year?!

Women are beautiful, intuitive, passionate, nurturing, wild, loving people and deserve to be celebrated every minute of every day!! We’ve lived so long in a world that celebrates the accomplishments of men, and quiets the voices of women – telling us were either “too little” or “too much”. And somewhere along the line we started to believe that! We started judging other women – our sisters – telling them to stop being slutty or bitchy or needy.

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This needs to end.

It’s time for women to lift each other up, to stop comparing, to start owning exactly who we are – The Powerful Badass Warrior Women, and among them are those who literally birthed every single human on this planet!!! And it’s time for men to recognize the divine feminine in each of us, and in themselves and empower women to shine as brightly as they possibly can.

So do one thing today – tell yourself or a woman you love, or a woman you don’t even know, how f*cking amazing they are! 😀❤️✌️

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I Let My Soul Explore 🌹

I left today,

On a journey I planned a long time ago.

I left without needing approval

I left without fear.

Alone I felt powerful.

People wouldn’t know,

The strength it took to get out of bed

The pills and pain I had to swallow.

People don’t know.

How hard it is to listen,

How hard it is to talk,

How hard it is.

I took one step

And then seven

And slowly synchronicity surrounded.

I started following the pulls.

I’m here now,

I’m adventuring,

I’m listening to my soul, feeding it,

The soul I lost for so long.

Through the fire.

Through the burnout.

It was waiting,

To explore, to awaken.


I’m not a poet by any means, but I wrote this today, as a representation of my journal entries for the two weeks following my break up. It just felt right to express it in this way.

In that time I had given my 60 days notice, I had asked my parents about moving back in with them (not my most empowering moment) and I planned an escape. I packed my bag for 10 days, and decided I would go with the flow. I didn’t have any money, I wasn’t allowed to leave the country as I was still on a leave from work and I had literally no patience being around people. My doctor had recently started me on antidepressants, and the effects were minimal at this point.

My cousin, who I only see at Christmas, had graciously offered me a bed at her house in a city that I used to love, so I started there. I made a conscious decision to say Yes – to follow the universe, to be guided, to show up to MY life, for me. And things started to happen. Little things, big things, wild things – they all just started happening. I so randomly bumped in to my best friends from 10 years earlier, and even after all that time had passed, they still felt like home. The synchronicity of this experience had me dumbfounded. The universe was starting to bring me back to me, the real, core, true me. I was starting to feel inspired, and alive in a different way than I ever had before.

For the first time in a very, very long time I followed my heart. I allowed my soul to explore. I asked myself – what do I want to do right now – and then I would do it! What do I want to eat – and I would eat it! I sat by the lake and felt the crisp wind on my face. I went in to a year round costume shop and tried on Victorian ballgowns (so fun(ny). I navigated a museum of nature and found an entire floor of crystals. I attended a spiritual service and did a beautiful meditation. I let my body dance intuitively at a concert in another province. I went to see a movie and gorged on my favourite soft pretzels. Because come on! They’re amazing!

It seems so simple, but if you actually look at your day to day life, how often can you really say you do this? Without feeling guilty? Without seeking approval? Without being embarrassed? Without planning out every detail?

It was during this little mini adventure that I knew I would be living my life differently from now on. I set the intention that, as best as I could, I was going to listen to my soul.

Expose your soul, feel it deeply. Let it guide you, let it explore! ❤️✌️

3 Day Quote Challenge – Day 3 🦄✨

Thank you Bittermarshmellos (link below) for nominating me for this challenge!! Below are the rules and my nominations for today.

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DAY 3 QUOTE:

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That’s it. Plain and simple. I don’t owe you an explanation. I have finally gotten to a point where I can love myself enough to say that 💖💖

Ever since I can remember I have dulled my sparkle to fit in to other people’s lives – to their perfect little boxes. I have dated people that have tried to outshine or extinguish my sparkle. I have had friends who have been intimated by my sparkle, and so I hid it.

I’ve been scared to shine because I might lose you. But that fear is gone.

If anyone in your life is making it uncomfortable for you to grow then they do not belong there. If there are people who don’t support, or are embarrassed by your fucking sparkle tell them to hit the road! Those are not your people anymore.

Your people are the ones who empower you, who encourage you, who challenge you to become better. Your people are cheerleaders, even when they don’t understand what they’re cheering for. They’re your sisters, your tribe. They’re the faceless wonders who like your blog. They’re the ones who lift you up, who fill you up! They’re the ones who clap for you when you say “because I fucking sparkle, that’s why” ❤️✌️


 

Rules for the challenge are :

1. Thank the person who have nominated you for the challenge.

2. Post 3 quotes (1 for each day) for 3 days consecutively.

3. Nominate three more bloggers for the same challenge each day.

Today’s Nominations:

✨Jessica – PersonalGrowth&Success

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✨Dear Kiwanna

https://dearkiwanna.com

✨Ashleyleia

https://mentalhealthathome.wordpress.com

3 Day Quote Challenge – Day 2 🙌💖

Thank you Bittermarshmellos (link below) for nominating me for this challenge!! Below are the rules and my nominations for today.

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DAY 2 QUOTE:

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This quote comes from a poem by Maya Angelou. To read the whole poem, which I highly suggest you do, visit the link below. There is a biography for Ms. Angelou as well.

https://www.poets.org/poetsorg/poem/still-i-rise

This poem has meant a lot to me throughout this journey. I actually plan to have “still I rise” tattooed on me at the end of this month. It exudes confidence with such force, and demonstrates the value that we need to find within ourselves.  Despite judgments and opinions, she’s still going to rise. Are you? You will shine too bright for some, and you will find that people will try to blow out your flames to keep you down. But you can still rise up!

I believe she’s not only referring to the external forces that try to drive my bus, but also my ego, my inner critic and my saboteur. These suckers are strong. They fight me each and every day to stop this awakening, this transformation within me. They want to “protect” me, or at least years ago they did, but I’ve built them up with so much self doubt that they are huge obstacles to any kind of success now. But that’s just it – they’re only obstacles. Obstacles that, with commitment and hard work, can be overcome. Let go of fear, and rise!

My favourite part of this poem is at the very end,

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For those before me that couldn’t speak for fear of being killed. For those that didn’t make it through the dark tunnel of depression. For those who weren’t allowed to shine. I rise.

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Rules for the challenge are :

1. Thank the person who have nominated you for the challenge.

2. Post 3 quotes (1 for each day) for 3 days consecutively.

3. Nominate three more bloggers for the same challenge each day.

Today’s Nominations:

✨Widdershins Worlds

https://widdershinsfirst.com

✨emmalh

https://babyimbored.net

✨MagickMermaid

https://magickmermaid.wordpress.com

A Lonely Journey Towards Awakening – Where’s My Tribe?

I was told right off the hop that this journey would be a lonely one. I knew it would be, but I never expected what was coming.

I was grieving the loss of my relationship, I was trying to push through years worth of burnout and compassion fatigue to try and rebuild relationships with my family and friends, and I was drawn to things spiritually that most people pass judgment about instantly. It was hard for me to be around anyone for longer than 20 mins without feeling completely drained, but I forced myself to call at least one person per day and have a real conversation with them.

I have two friends that I could talk to about my journey. Everyone else I felt judged or misunderstood. I’m sure this had a lot to do with the fact that I barely understood what was awakening in me, and pieces of my ego were still making judgments about it.

My friends, and even my dad, are still willing to listen without judgment and entertain my desire to do card readings or reiki. My friends love crystals and even attempt meditating from time to time. They are as supportive as they can be of my journey, without actually going through it themselves. And they have absolutely no idea how deeply meaningful that is ❤❤

And this is where my heart knows that something is still missing. Whatever it is I’m going through – an awakening, a calling, divine purpose – I feel like I need people who are also going through it. People I can talk to about phases of the moon, the rising of the feminine, the law of attraction, frequency and vibrations of crystals, energy in all its forms, She… Someone who hears the word “witch” and doesn’t instantly want to run in fear of me casting spells against them. I need these people to lead me, to resonate with me, to inspire me. There is something bubbling so intensely on my surface and I dont know how to release it.

As much as people are awakening and this new-age spirituality is taking different forms and gaining a much larger following, it is still very difficult to find those people. To create a tribe of soul sisters, of moon goddesses, of gypsy spirits.

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It makes me wonder if most people are (like me) still hiding in what Rebecca Campbell calls their “spiritual closet”. In her book Rise Sister Rise, Campbell talks about this spiritual closet we hide out in, in order to protect our sacred beliefs. But she says;

“we must not waste our time hiding parts of who we are from the world around us. It is our weirdness, our secret passions, our deepest beliefs that make us who we are. Come out of whatever closet you are in”.

One of my wishes in creating this blog was to communicate with like-minded women and men who feel the energy shifting in the world, who feel the entirety of their core changing.

My other wish is two fold; that I could help people understand and have less judgment towards a spiritual calling, and even perhaps inspire those who are just starting their journey as I did a few months ago.

This journey is lonely in one way – but it is undeniably the most soul-filling feeling of connection that I’ve ever experienced. ✌❤

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3 Day Quote Challenge – Day 1 😀❤️

Thank you Bittermarshmellos (link below) for nominating me for this challenge!! Below are the rules and my nominations for today.

https://bittermarshmellos.wordpress.com

DAY 1 QUOTE:

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I went to see Amy Schumer’s new movie “I Feel Pretty” last night and this quote really resonates with the message I received sitting in that theatre arm deep in buttery popcorn. Self confidence IS a super power. I found myself admiring Amy and how she carried herself so confidently despite what other people may have judged about her. She strutted around like she owned the world, she wasn’t intimidated or anxious about anything she just owned it! There’s a message in the movie about how our child selves would walk around with our bellies out and wouldn’t care at all about what other people thought. Not that we all need to be half naked all the time, but we should be so in love with ourselves that we pay no mind to other opinions. And that is when the magic happens. The magic she exuded jumped off the screen and really inspired me to look closely at how I carry myself.

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Rules for the challenge are :

1. Thank the person who have nominated you for the challenge.

2. Post 3 quotes (1 for each day) for 3 days consecutively.

3. Nominate three more bloggers for the same challenge each day.

Today’s Nominations:

✨Jen Kennedy

https://shithappens.blog

✨Karissa Poulton

https://herewegrowagainblog.wordpress.com

✨E.

https://onegratefulthought.wordpress.com